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Stuart Rd, Yarrow BC, Aug 1, 8 p.m.

My feet hurt and I was desperately, dismally sick all over York Farms this morning but I made over seven beautiful dollars today.

Aug 11, 6 a.m.

Dear-but-so-neglected-due-to-lack-of-time-journal,

After he took me home on Sunday night, I had a mad dream about him. He was walking me to the truck. I was just clambering in. His voice suddenly became agonized and broke when he said, "Oh, Ellie, why do you have to walk that way?" My stunned face collapsed, and I burst into hysterical tears. He found his way to me and held me, and then we were whirled into a wild frantic kiss that was a reassurance and a consolation.

Meanwhile he was dreaming too. The first part was unimportant; I can't even remember what it was. "I won't tell you the rest," he said.

My chair gave a leap and nearly folded as I moved closer, widened my eyes, and demanded to be told.

"I guess I could tell you," he said. "I kissed you."

"Hey, you've been eavesdropping in my dreams!" I accused.

"You know, they say you dream what you suppress," he hinted.

As he held me lingeringly before he said goodbye to me (we were beside the tall, lean cedar that grows beside the red steps, and it was dark and beautiful, our shadows were swaying and melty, and he wouldn't let me go so they looked like a two-headed monster) he said, "I'll kiss you yet before you go home."

"That's what you think."

"I will."

"Immediately before, or as soon as possible?"

"Um ... immediately before, I think."

"How about not at all?" He looked meditatingly at the sky. I had to laugh at his expression.

"Maybe you're right. It does make it more special.

"So you aren't going to?" He looked back up at the sky. After a long time he said, "It's a deal."

"On one condition" - he amended. "You're going to have to help me."

"Haven't I been?"

"Yes, but you'll have to keep on. I'm only human."

"How did you do it?" he burst out just before he left, "getting me to make a promise like that." He laughed. "Wait'll I tell Judy about this!" he said.

We had an argument about whether he's going to go out with other girls. "I mean it. I want you to," I said. He demurred. He said he didn't want to. I said, "Just think how awful I'll feel if I know you're wrecking your social life because of me."

"How much social life do you think this boy wants?"

"Oh, about twice a week."

"Twice a week with you."

"Let's just leave it at twice a week." We argued it back and forth, in an almost tender way, me accusing him (tenderly?) of being silly; it's so unnecessary! This went on for a long time while we held hands over the checker board. Then I thought we'd dropped it. But suddenly, while he had his arms around me, he said, "Do you think I can hold you like this and then take somebody else out?" So what can you say.

I think I'm afraid. Frank loves me too much. He loves me so violently and compulsively that I am afraid this won't be only a summer romance. I'm afraid he'll want to marry me someday, and I don't want to marry him.

I love him. He's a wonderful guy. But this is young, this is an outgrowth of youth and summer. It would never last a lifetime. I want to be with people and motion and culture. I don't understand his feeling for the earth. I won't marry a farmer. It would make me old and tired and meek like Mom. Perhaps not, though, because I have more liquid steel in my blood than she ever had.

Still, I'm afraid that a time will come when I'll have to choose between hurting him (and oh, I don't want to hurt him!) and messing up my beautiful future. If he loves me too much, if he believes in me too blindly, he'll be more than hurt if I dropped him, and I'd have to, sooner or later. He'd lose faith in people, he'd be bitter. I don't ever want to be responsible for doing that to a man.

I have to be careful now. Maybe this isn't anything, really, to be worried about. Maybe he just loves hard and then forgets quickly. But I don't think so. I don't know what I can do.

I came out and stood in the doorway while he came toward me. It was a dramatic entrance, at least I felt like an actress making a dramatic entrance, because I know I looked vivid. I was wearing an electric blue sweater, knit and curvy over my new bra, and under it, an electric pinky-peach tight skirt.

I posed on the warm red steps with my hands on the door posts. He walked up with his hands behind his back. When he was on the step below me, he put out his hand and showed me - a flower, pink and ruffly on a waxy dark green stem.

"It's a silly gesture, but ..." he said. I could have hugged him. I did, later, but that's another story.

"I want you to wear it," he said. So I did. I pinned it on lovingly and stuck my chin into it often. It was the first flower I've ever gotten from a boy.

"You must have had a premonition of what I was going to wear. These colors just couldn't go together better."

And they couldn't have - a mauvy delicate pink and the bright blue. It made me glow.

When I left him, I had half-convinced him to write me a letter when he got home.

"Can I say anything I want to? Everything I feel?"

"Anything. And nothing you say will be held against you."

We played checkers for a while, but never did finish the game. We started to hold hands above the board and then, well, the chair with the board on it was moved out, and then my chair was moved forward and his was, and he found even this too distant so he moved over beside me, and then I sat half-facing him, so he was still foiled. I don't understand him, partly because he's male and I'm not, but also because he's an adult and I'm only half-way there. But he's driven by the peculiar things that drive men. Still, understood or not, he's the wonderfullest thing and I like him.

Once, while he was being amorous and I was being "coy" I suddenly sat back and looked at the little porch window behind us.

"You know, I've been nervous about that window behind us," I said, "but I just noticed something - it's only a porch window and there is a tree in front of the door." And I did a most amazing thing. I leaned forward and gave him a hug.

"If I were you I'd be very shocked. That was very unbashful and unladylike."

"You'd be more shocked if I let myself go - the things I'd do." That sounded interesting. I wanted him to go on but he wouldn't.

When the last radio program had ended, he knew this was time for aloha. I started walking toward the door. He reached up and pulled me back toward him. I could see the shadow tossed onto the wall by a street lamp. It was a boy and a girl being romantic. A chugging sound. "Listen to the frogs," I said. He laughed. "You have quite an imagination - that's an electric motor."

"No, listen to it - it's .... It is an electric motor."

But even without the frogs it was nice. A thin darkness, cool air, a beautiful blue sweater with a crushed pink flower pinned to it, freshness and youngness and a sort of love.

That was when I convinced him about the kissing part. I almost think he was a little disgruntled, but he understood, which, for a boy, is marvelous. But that was the evening he and I played checkers.

And then there was Sunday. Judy and he came to get me from work. They waited in the living room while I changed, and I choked a chortle while I listened to Grandma's voice going on and on about the "Kinder." (This breathless listening to a family history paid off tho' - she told me later that she thought Judy and Frank were very "gescheit.")

Then I made another entrance in my new heels and some petticoats. And then we drove to Mission, stopping at Abbotsford at the Dairy Queen for a big chocolate-dipped soft ice cream. The Mission trip was in honour of my half-birthday.

While we were there we had a Chinese dinner - sweet and sour, fried onions, and fried rice au something or a la something. I discovered that having Judy along is great fun - she's a person, a womanly and intelligent and intriguing person.

They were talking about a painting called "The Man with the Hoe." "It's a picture of a man all bent over, leaning on his hoe," Frank explained. "That isn't my idea of a man with a hoe," he went on. "He should be standing very straight and holding his hoe high."

"But your idea of farming is different than theirs was, Frank," Judy put in. "Your idea is conquest but theirs was subjection." Judy is wistful about love - she's looking for it, and she asks me, indirectly, if it is what she thinks it would be. She thinks of her brother as having this certain "it" that she wants. She knows him better than I do; I wonder

There was an album cover we stopped to look at twice in one of the shop windows. It was an Oriental looking girl done beautifully in oils with a certain eye-catching verve to the artistry.

"She looks sensual," Judy said. "That's a word a boy isn't even allowed to use," Frank put in. "Even that hand, all alone, would be sensual," she continued. "And the whole effect is much more sensuous than this other one - in spite of the nightgown and the rose."

When we drove home there was a gorgeous view of the river at the bridge; a wash of deep silvery mauve over the smudgy hills and the gold-dusted sky reflected on the ice-like surface of the river (little rough choppy places among the polished patches) and held up against it in a deep solid black silhoette, four old wharf poles.

Then we went home and he almost kissed me but I was slippery. And we drove home. Comfortably and serenely romantic. That was it.

I never did finish about my shopping trip to Chilliwack:

I went to the library after dinner, dug around art books, read snatches of a torchered book called "I Shall Not Serve" by a young French girl who committed suicide, and thought about an article I'd read in a dingy café where I had a Coke for dinner. It was called "Anyone can neck, but there are dangers you should know about," and was wedged between the lurid sob stories in a True Love magazine, of all places. It went through the usual "soiled goods" story and bothered me a bit. I even made a few resolves.

That evening when Frank came we sat primly in the living room and I wouldn't even hold hands with him.

"She's icy tonight," he said.

"She has to be, and besides, she's been reading pep talks. You know what I mean."

"Sure. And what kind of good book did you find 'em in?"

"Didn't find 'em in a good book. Found 'em in a magazine."

"I know." He was quiet for a while and then came up with a rebuttle. "But we haven't done anything. We haven't even parked."

"True," I said. And from that moment felt quite philosophical about it.

August 13, Sunday p.m.

I told Frank about the feeling I have about the Smiley episode. He was silent, and I talked on

"... hardly anyone has ever been nice to him and then I was nasty. When I got home I thought about it for a while and then I was so ashamed of myself I could have cried. I still am."

He changed the subject. He told me about a muskrat he'd seen running over the road, and how he'd swerved to avoid it; then he mentioned a man who deliberately ran down animals on the road.

"It was like what I did. It was brutal." I told him. I looked away and bit my lip. He tightened his arm and pulled me down, tenderly, to his shoulder.

"You can sit up if you want to," he said.

"I don't," I said in a small voice against his white shirt.

"I shouldn't pull you around that way."

There was a strange feeling on the way home. First Frank was glum, and then I caught it from him and it was twice as bad for me. We talked about sad and deep things, and behind it there was always a breathless and overpowering tenderness. I looked up from his shoulder and thought, "Oh Frank, I love you, I love you; even tho' it's only for now, I do love you." There was an undercurrent of insecurity too. I was unsure of what he was thinking and I was unhappy because he was. George was singing an off-key version of "The big iron on his hip" and "The Tennessee stud" and "Sugartime." Sometimes I sang with him. I didn't look at Frank because when I did, he either looked straight ahead or else turned slowly to look back with no smile on his mouth and a sort of blankness, a sad blankness, in his eyes. I watched him in the mirror. He drove grimly, or maybe he only looked grim because of the set of his mouth, and after he noticed that I wasn't looking at him anymore, he began to glance at me questioningly from the corners of his eys. I ignored him petulantly, talked to George or not at all.

So George and I were singing "The Tennessee stud was long and lean, the color of the sun, and his eyes were green" both off in a different way, and then that lapsed until we began "Sugartime" quite rousingly, and then that died out and we drove the rest of the way to George's place almost in silence. We let him off, and then drove very slowly between the trees down his lane. I looked away from Frank toward the trees. The truck stopped. Both arms went around me.

"Why so look-away?" he asked.

"I don't know."

"Did you have a good time?"

"Yes. I had a very good time."

He squeezed for a moment, and then drove on.

We took our usual winding route home. When we began to roll down a long hill, we could see the lights of the valley through a layer of mist that was almost like the film on cooking milk.

Oh yes - one thing I forgot. When we were driving toward George's place, Frank was humming something under the racket George and I were making. "What are you singing?" I asked. It was the first thing I'd said to him for a long time.

"My darling, if I hurt you I'm sorry.
Forgive me, and please say
You'll be mine - all mine.
Return to me, oh my dear I'm so lonely,
Hurry home, hurry home, won't you please
Hurry home to my heart."

He began it and I finished. He is sweet. He was concerned. He was wondering what he'd done.

Then, when we came out of the driveway, he said "Aren't you going to say anything?" I didn't, but I enjoyed being a spoiled pouting child for a while.

I've begun at the end - the whole day was wonderful and not all as morose as the last part.

Frank came to church in Yarrow. I was hoping he'd wear his best suit but he didn't. I didn't see him there, but he was coming to dinner so I wasn't worried. I was dolled up - uh-huh! I checked and rechecked the contours in the living room mirror.

The truck drove up onto the yard. I took my time getting to the door. He backed out, thinking nobody was home yet. I opened the door and laughed at him while he drove back up to the door.

He came in, sat at one end of the table facing Grandpa, didn't talk much, except for a bit of happy gab in the living room before dinner, laughed when a potato, pushed by Fate, fell into my plate, looked over my Medieval History book (which is being written on now) while I dried dishes, took off his tie and jacket and was quite "gemütlich." He told me about Judy's employers in Vancouver, who, after Frank had been there to see if Judy was home, had told her about "this terribly handsome guy who was here to see you; his name was Frank. Is he your boyfriend?" My first reaction was, what handsome guy. But he is, sometimes. I can't make up my mind as to whether he is good looking or not.

Then we left, after reassuring G'ma about how gescheit he drives, and got George from the dinner table he was sharing with a mob of small brothers and sisters and cousins. We went the Deas Tunnel route. Twice George reminded us when Frank was one-hand driving and a policeman was nearby.

We got into Van. We spotted a curb to lean against while George tried to find the Capilano Stadium.

"You find it somewhere, George," said FD. "Meanwhile, Ellie, we're parking." So he gave me a bear-hug there in broad daylight.

Oh - why Capilano Stadium?

"Have you ever seen a big-league baseball game?" he asked me.

"No - are we going to one?" I asked delightedly.

"We are," he said, and when we finally found Capilano, on 33rd and Main, I think, we sat in the bleachers among stamping small boys and thirteen-year-old girls parading their new-found chest expansions for the benefit of thirteen-year boys who couldn't care less. The Mounties were playing Salt Lake City and won by about 10-2. Number 1 for the Mounties was an incredibly graceful negro who played 3rd base and I admired him profusely while watching him in Frank's field glasses. We used those for other things too - there was a girl a few sections away, whose back was bare for a ways before the blouse began. George looked her over in the glasses. His commments were - see for yourself - "that backbone sticks out about an inch There's some kind of elastic in her shorts, er ... panties. Quite stiff too Her sister's wearing the same kind ..." I looked. "Hey, do you want to see too?" I asked Frank. He didn't, and was embarrassed.

The game went on. Balls landed in the bleachers and small boys scrambled for them, we consumed ice cream bars and 7-up and popcorn, we commented and watched but the game didn't have as much appeal, altho' more skill than, our high school teams (even tho' the diamond was manicured and raked and spotless.) J-d's argued vulgarly behind us, everyone sang "Take me out to the ballgame" during the seventh-inning stretch, (I enjoyed it) and I sat happily between George and Frank. Three boys, homely too, but dressed to look a million dollars, came up and sat right behind us. (My influence, I know for a fact) Pigskin shoes! They probably came in a convertible, and what they were doing in the 90¢ bleachers I don't know. But they left soon. And then there were the 4 fresh little boys in front of us. I don't know what they said, but Frank and George both jumped on them and threatened to throw them over the fence. ("They were only about 150 pounds, and the fence can't be more than 15 feet high ," quote Frank).

When it was all over we walked out, down the ramps, and I was very aware of the clicking of heels and the feeling of "class" coming from the right clothes.

I had my blue sweater and and on the way home slung it over my knees. Frank got a laugh out of it.

"Are you cold?" he said first.

"Uh-uh. I'm just covering my knees."

"Hey, smart girl. Then you don't have to tug every two minutes."

"... And if you don't tug, you're an unverschamedes madchen." We understood even that in a mutual lightbulb popping way. Everything. It's wonderful.

Tomorrow, another installment. Hey, I get a letter from him on Wednesday!

Then we went to Playland, which was closed, but George found an open tramp joint so they, the two of them, worked out for fifteen minutes. Both took off their shirts, the better to show their tans and for more freedom. Also their shoes. (George put his money into his.) I strolled around and took two pictures, one of George all up in the air and one of Frank taking a nose dive into the canvas. I felt quite - good - to be in a hobble skirt and heels. Even picking my way through loose gravel in that new way is special to me.

George was lithe and impish on the tramp, and could turn lovely flips Frank tried to but never managed to land on his feet even tho' he tried hard.

When we went back to the truck George was dripping. Water was dribbling from his young stubble-less chin, and his face was as wet as though he had doused it. I admired the lines of his bare, glistening neck and his long back. His hair was wet and wisping.

Then we went to Chinatown. The streets were full of old Chinese men, walking, leaning, sitting on the museum steps. There were crowds of people on Pender St.

After parking, we found a restaurant called the - I forget what. Somekind of Tea Gardens with genuine squeaky music, red gold-embossed menus, a beaming prop., and chairs instead of benches. We had chicken fried rice, mushroom Chop Suey and somekind of Chou Mein with tea. I was teazing George about "Chicken Foo Young," a sort of egg mixture which G claims is meaty. I renamed it, aptly, "Chicken, Too Young." George, being more adventurous, asked for chopsticks, so we ate the entire meal with them - Frank spilled least, George chickened out first, and I spilled most but held on to the last grains of rice. "Another" wizened old China-boy across from us ate plain white rice with gusto and the round heap in his bowl diminished to a few grains quite rapidly.

Frank shoved a borrowed dime into the juke box slot and pressed the button beside "Smoke Gets in Your Eyes." Soon there was a thrumming sound of music, and then the unexpected burst of a voice singing "Apple-Green." He was puzzled, but I told him quite happily that it was a favorite song of mine. He tried again. "Apple-Green" again. I was talking to George, and then I noticed that Frank was remote from us, listening to the song. I wondered what he was thinking. I wondered if he knows intuitively that this is partly my song now.

" and all the world
Is apple-green
When you're seventeen,
And in love "

The voice had an intensity, a clear emotion, in it and it is perhaps that, as much as the words, which makes it my song.

George's long legs reached all the way across to my side, and still further under my chair. He's a romping, grinning, stretched out, oversize version of a small boy, but still not without the mysterious "it" called sex appeal. Touching him is not without awareness. When looking at the map together our shoulders and hands touched, and there was that lack of unawareness. But he is a child - carefree and naïve, even.

When we left, we walked on back to our truck. At the Marco Polo two stripling boys in black and white were waiting to touch off a long string of firecrackers. George perked up his ears and demanded to wait and watch. So we, all three, leaned against a lamp pole and waited. I was in the middle. I could see my reflection on the glass doors beyond the sign saying "Private Party." Dark hair swinging loosely onto my shoulders, the blouse looking neat, My body narrowing to the belt at my waistline and then curving out under the pastel skirt, the dark legs, one tucked up, and the wonderful white shoes. The big white purse. I looked - chic, I think. Almost Seventeen magazine.

We stepped back when they lit the crackers. Frank held my hand - in case I was frightened. There was a sputtering, then mixed with stacatto barks, then a roar like a battle movie's filmtrack as the street corner was filled with flying fire and curious people. There was a pyramid of flames. In the middle of the pandemoneum and excitement I felt Frank's arm around my shoulder giving me a squeeze. I know because of that, that even his twenty-one year old staidness was vanquished by small-boy fireworks excitement.

On the way home we stopped at a fruitstand to buy some grapes. We all went in, looking and gabbing and laughing. George furtively peeled off the end of a red banana to show me they were the same as yellow bananas inside. We got a bag full of purple grapes, and in the truck admired the way they hang in bunches. Frank was driving, so I picked out the lovely big ones and held them in my hand for him. I thought he'd chide but he didn't. I wondered if he was remembering the one time I was angry with him - when he didn't let me help fill his carrier even with a handfull of puny berries. (When I accused him of being selfish and he was properly repentant)

On the phone a few days ago, in reference to what I said last Thursday about him taking oodles of other girls out as long as he liked me better, he asked me if I'd like him best.

I hemmed and hawed and said that you just don't make promises like that, but semi-blurted, at the end, that I like him best now.

"Good," he said, and his voice softened, "because I like you best."

August 21

Last night he said "If somebody gave you a friendship ring, what would you do with it - hang it up in your room, wear it on a chain, put it away ..."

"Who'd give me a friendship ring?"

"Him."

"Him. Him? Whom?"

"The guy from Aldergrove You're free not to answer that question."

"Which question?"

"About what you'd do with it."

"Oh. In the first place I wouldn't take it." There was silence. I wondered if it had been a slap. He didn't ask why so I told him "... because, for one thing, it would send my mother into a fit. For another thing, it's too tangible. For another thing, it hurts too much when you have to give it back."

"That was answered very well," he said.

I wondered again. "Do you mind?" I asked.

"No."

While we were driving he mentioned the letter he'd sent; the letter that said "he wants to tell you that he cares for you very much, more, perhaps, than he wants to admit."

"After I mailed it I wished I could snatch it back out of the mails."

"Why?"

"It's unusual to say more in a letter than you would verbally."

"I always do."

"But it violated a standard I'd set up."

A long pause. I felt queer - something was tense and my mind kept saying "it's so painful, so painful," when I leaned back casually, looked at the ceiling, stretched my hands up to touch it, and said "Are you going to ask me to forget it? Because you didn't mean it anyway?"

"No, Ellie. I meant it," and then there was the compulsive moving together, and the reassurance that is so sweet after pain.

This young kind is the best kind. It is only for a while and yet it has a temporary permanence. - you know what I mean. It is free from the pressure of adult love. Immediately, in an adult love, there is the thought, "we must be married. When? Soon." And in young love there's no disturbing thought like that one.

Frank and I do love in an almost adult way and if I were older it would be "adult love" and there would be the pressure. Yet, I am sixteen and there is no question of marriage, and so we can love in an adult way without adult pressures. We can say, "I hope we always remember each other," and we can remember.



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