raw forming volume 7 part 2 - 1967 october-december  work & days: a lifetime journal project

11 October

[journal]

There may be a confusion of our lives by media because so many small growths appear as bumps on our central knot of existence, we are other people because of books or movies, none of it is incorporated, we are desperate to incorporate it but it is inert, an artifact, we forget it, cast it out and it does not confuse our past - only dilute it. But our present is harried, multiplied, distorted, wrenched, countless numbers of times every day by fictitious modes of existence seeming as real as our continuous mode of existence in ourselves. Is this why I seem to float? Words and images our technical key, our formula. Destruction of our unity. And I keep looking for more languages, more images, more existence - less existence? Less coherence? Many webs hang on a few, few, nails.

13 October

"The generative, fruitful principle of analysis lies in the reconstruction and reconstitution of the individual drama as an artist achieves it - with enthusiasm for its development, a passion for its expression, color, and ramifications. It is this attitude which is necessary to his salvation." Diary of Anais Nin.

From discussion with Otto Rank: importance of learning as a self-adjustment and not an integration into 'normal life'.

Also, "The new hero, still unknown, is the one who can live and love in spite of our mal de siecle. The neurotic is the modern romantic who refuses to die because his illusions and fantasies prevent him from living." 284

But in my case it is cynicism as well as fantasies, in combat, and me afraid of a stalemate. Richard was so presumptuous and so wrong; and right - accidentally?

Oct 15

[letter]

We're having a beautiful fall; there's one tree down the street on which each leaf is both red and gold, the colors shading into one another from the stem outward - with its black branches, this tree is a kind of new miracle every time I walk by it.

So much for background. I've just called Toronto to speak to Grandpa and Grandma before they leave on Tuesday. I also spoke to Paul about his job and the glories of being in Toronto. I want to spend a weekend soon in Toronto, but not until my money comes (so I can shop).

I am taking the film course now; and it's possibly the best course I've ever had. It is taught by Peter Harcourt, a young man just back from years of study in England. He's lovely. A small man with brown hair and a soft brown moustache, warm brown eyes; a sort of childish tilted smile. He stands in front of his class and just talks - he looks at notes, "No, they're pompous," and doesn't lecture from them but says whatever floats to the top of his mind - usually good. It's not his brilliance as an intellect, but his spontaneity, his warmth, his arrogance complicated by his sense of humor, his enthusiasm for films - and his tilted smile.

Another young teacher is [Kerry] McSweeney in Victorian lit - he looks like a rather stupid high school basketball player - big and gentle with round brown eyes and a cowlick. This is his first year teaching, I think, but he's very good. He seems still to be able to respond to what he teaches and he's obviously intelligent.

There's a rumour from my friend Richard in Montreal that Peter Dyck is getting married on the 28th of this month to Christine, a girl he knew in Strasbourg; French. Don't say anything to people you know until I'm sure. I'm quite sad to be losing another friend; but it's wonderful that he is able to trust somebody at last.

Olivia writes from Oxford that she and Don have found a flat, that the town is beautiful, that the English are apathetic. Andrea and Tony have left for Europe, so we really have no friends left and will have to make some more? But we have two cats - Petercat is large and malevolent, stalking Little Cat with his hairless tail held up like a flag-pole rather than a banner.

Michel is often good company but very foreign - he's carefully polite at all times, restrained; and his Kingston friends tend to be boring political scientists.

17 October

[letter]

I vote for the first time today, in an Ontario provincial election.

Another first - I'm reviewing Warrendale for the Journal - I'll send you the clipping when it comes out.

It's raining - the water on the sidewalks intensifies the red of the fallen leaves as brooks do the colors of pebbles. The back yard is thickly covered with leaves.

17 October

[journal]

Rain, red leaves on the sidewalk brilliant under a film of water, mist between the trees in MacDonald Park. Individual trees by the lake cut elegantly into the soft wet furry sky. Chandeliers, turquoise-blue wallpaper in the doctors' houses fringing the park, white fanlights, stained glass, black iron knockers. Burlap curtains over students' second floor windows. Walls furred over with ivy; Liz Robinson in boots and bluejeans hesitating outside a door on West Street. I've been walking as I used to in first year, looking into windows, stealing flowers, eating a chocolate bar.

The wet asphalt has a pebbled texture; the everlasting flame at the corner of Barrie Street is flattened and distracted by the light rain. The park is an eerie forest of blue light, fog, black tree trunks. Deserted. I stand on the corner waiting for a line of cars to go by, slowly. Standing on a corner in the rain watching cars go by could be an image for loneliness. I like driving with Greg when it rains (Washington this spring, when we ran from the movie house across the slippery street to the flowerseller and our small car, while we were still high after seeing A Man and a Woman). Tonight the people in their moving enclosed spaces seemed to have an intimacy that I wished for. But I came home - John A MacDonald floats in a nest of yellow leaves - and lit the candles. They're reflected in the mirror.

I'll forget: the spiced short candle held up by my dragon. My hooded blue nylon jacket. Sophia Loren's pointed tiger-eyed face in Lady L. That Greg's heart suddenly stopped beating when he was in Ottawa and would not have begun again if his oculist had not pounded his chest - known what to do.

24 October

[journal]

Leaves rattle along the street, six distinct stars are over the castle on which the ivy moves in the wind, like the movement of someone passing behind a dark hidden window. Beside the steps of my verandah is a pattern of stiff dead leaves still attached to the tree by invisible branches, each leaf lit by the streetlight behind and fixed in the pattern like a planet. I was sitting on the steps wrapped in my cloak thinking of objects again. The castle with its outline, shadows and flickers, position under the six stars. The distinct separate leaves seeming to hold together in their exact configuration, other leaves dropping, blowing, past them.

Monique Leyrac in her concert tonight. She stood at the microphone in a clinging black dress, looking like a toreador with her round small bottom and flat abdomen, moving like a toreador, with her whole body, flicking her palms at the musicians, acting with her arms (like a bird's wing, a woman's arm - Felix Krull) and face. Her body as expressive as her face and voice: I long for such unity with my body, its precise connection with myself. She was a perfect object. Like the perfect object, the castle, something in the face of which I lose my surety of myself as an object and become painful envious subject, nearly naked.

I don't want to leave Grant Hall for sidewalk, room, conversation with Greg: it is the place on the side balcony overlooking the pianist, the bassist, the drummer, the spotlights, and the singer moving that were the convincing dream. Marianne: "come back from Barnygat / with thunder in his eyes" made me cry. Mon Pays and the standing ovation left my heart pounding. Michel ran up to give her the bouquet of carnations and kissed her hand: he has such courage: I saw him in the wings twitching his coat button into place, and then he simply walked out among the lights. He surely knows he's ugly, but he summons up his charm, sentiment, warmth, sincerity, basic orthodoxy, and moves out into the world as if he were also a perfect object.

I'm such a child. Gregory oppresses me because he is so familiar, clean; banal not because he is banal but because we are. "The stretches between the moments are so long, so grey, vague, so full of banality with other people." But as I was explaining how my own life is not enough, how being present at the concert is not enough, how 'raconter' may be preferable to 'vivre' because the perfect object must be and cannot be myself. Must be, for a reason I don't know. Cannot be because I can't really ever be sure I am an object at all, or what kind of object.

The old anxiety has grown so strong this fall. I seem not to have grown at all.

[undated letter]

Enclosed are both some money and my review and editorial from last week's Journal.

We spent last weekend at Expo and shopping in Montreal - went to the Expo art gallery, bought two pairs of Italian shoes, and some tall lace-up Cossack boots.

Cold - the Montreal buses began to run again just as we were there. Also went to three movies: now my love of movies is justified by my ambitions!

Greg is graduating at last so he can officially begin his Masters - he's being recommended for a first class degree; after all his years of being undiscovered!

So - flowers and candles again, my money has come at last!

It's raining - leaves are dead. Mind is full of films, Victorian writers, philosophers, even some friends.

It's been a long time since I've heard from you. Harvest must be over. I've heard nothing about school at all. Is something wrong?

Sunday October 29

[letter]

A short, impulsive note to tell you that, first, I was at Peter's wedding in Montreal yesterday afternoon, and second, that all is well. I'm in the middle of writing an essay on Alfred Lord Tennyson and wonder whether you have an English course this year, and how you are and whether your excitement has flowed into hard work and is all diffused before you have time to write and tell me how it is?

I'm excited about work too - English, philosophy, and especially film. My career decision complicates my life and self image because I oscillate between elation and complete lack of confidence. But I always come to the same conclusion: it will be difficult and 100% demanding but I can do it, it is worth doing, and it will force me to live as I really want to, with everything open and listening. I'm glad you were pleased as well; I should have known that your feelings about films and movies aren't old fashioned!

Peter's wedding was nice and he seems very fond of Christine. The ceremony was in French - I think he was glad to have me there because none of his family and no one from his past could come. I'll tell you about it at more length when I've gotten some work done. If you need more money please say so. Greg sends his love.

30 October

[journal]

This morning I spoke for over an hour on Tennyson's thinking in In Memoriam, relation to Kant's transcendental illusion; use of science as new imaginative compost, neuroticism of his love for Hallam, his lack of negative capability, ambiguity present in his use of Hallam's death, first as an emotional centre for his life and second as a formula manipulated rhetorically. I spoke to a large extent off the cuff and did some thinking as I spoke. When I finished I was exhausted. No one had interrupted. McSweeney said, "That was very good - quite brilliant." And all day I've been happy with a sense of capability: I can do English and succeeded this time in thinking, working, with great concentration and effectiveness at the same time as speaking. I am more articulate in speaking than I used to be. Skill is important.

5 November

Two things this fall (and today fall is the spring of winter - sharp white branches, gulls' bellies flashing against the intense contrasts of blue and grey in the sky, cold, isolated yellow leaves on high branches like impressionist leaves, so single, tree trunks heavily black, newly placed sculptures, pale yellow light and a strangeness in the look of everything) the two things are my decision to make films and my recurring rebellion against the relationship with Greg.

Films - exhileration of everything to be learned, hope of a centre for my life, fear of inability. Suspicion of my eagerness at adopting it as centre. From enforced centrelessness to a life devoted to work - it's like readopting a morality. Or is it collapse from confidence in my personal world as it happens to me, as centre to a willful creation of my personal world - therefore decision, responsibility - arbitrariness - (there was nothing arbitrary about my Sexsmith world, altho' I lived on will then the world beyond my work sparkled, pushed itself at me and I walked about touching it).

So now I must decide that the passive responsiveness of those days is really gone forever, with the unity of its glamour and mine? In that case I really can only drift and wait, or else begin to work and decide to work terribly well. Yet the glamour must come back from time to time or I shall have nothing to work with - I must work at producing the glamour and I don't know whether glamour is not killed by producing heaves of mind. Being creative for me has always been just being: now I must work at it constantly watchfully - and yet my objection to work is that it prevents the watching and seeing I must now work to be.

I think constantly about ways of training myself: learning another seven languages, learning to sketch and photograph, learning to write character sketches and dialogue, learning to walk and see resources; learning to hold the intensity of ambiguity, paradox; understanding what modern people are - all things I want to do, not as exercises only but for themselves. I can't think of any other work which could demand all of what I could do or want to do. Everything I know, see, think, read is potentially valuable, and this is exciting; but at the same time I rebel at doing everything for a central purpose, too much like morality again.

And so I could do things, no longer in spite of as I usually have, but not because of either, simply as doing - yes, but I know there's a sanction for this doing what I like, and it makes me temporarily uneasy and at the same time there are things that have to be done: whatever is useful to get me into a position in which I can do and not dream.

If I begin this I must try terribly hard: I seem to have begun it, but remembering how suddenly I made this beginning, I must remember how easily I could end it - in any way, by marrying, dying, writing, bumming, or going back to psychology. (Never!) At the same time, you see, the suddenness seems a stroke of permanence - as an 'I will' with a date, a moment, an exact spot, and a celebration barefoot in the rain at the lakeshore.

But can I, can I, even if I will with all I am?

And Greg - sometimes the relationship is dead, he seems passive and friendly, a kind of half-formed shape becoming steadily a political scientist, in becoming gaining a sort of contour that he lacked and needs, but one I've no use for. I don't like him because he is what he is: I appreciate him for what he is not. I miss forcefulness, I miss insight and rapport and impact, God what a great husband he would make, for someone who most of all needs a husband. I need his support but the quality of support I get from him often bores me, doesn't convince me.

Last night I sat up finishing Adam Bede, and then crawled into bed beside him, removing the little grey cat. He was a large very warm body and I felt full of tenderness for it, but then as always when he talked to me I felt disappointed. Confusion - I know I'm intolerant and lack the objectivity to tell when I'm greedy or actually missing something, and so I tell myself I won't see him, to see if I'm more alive without him, but go back immediately to see what he is really like. Later; je ne peux jamais le [unfinished sentence]

[undated letter]

Very lively and happy letter, which I'll answer when I've done some Hegel, some Sartre, some Dickens and Tennyson, some essays for my beloved Peter Harcourt, and some painful experimental psych. And written Olivia.

The stamp is compliments of Michel, who is forever getting mail from France.

We had a Russian Revolution party on the 7th, with some professors and our favorite people, and I made some peruski for it but forgot the salt in the crust and the sugar in the filling - but our guests assumed, I think, that the oddness of the taste was a Russian characteristic.

The phil department has recommended me for a Woodrow Wilson Fellowship - a great honour, but little more, because only 150 are awarded out of many people in the US and Canada who are recommended - although only a few from each university can submit applications. Also it's only for study in the US which doesn't really interest me - but I'll apply just to see if I can get one! [I didn't apply.]

I'm off to class.

[undated letter ­ November sometime]

You've been to college not even a whole semester and already you've begun to sound college educated - I'm amazed at the little differences in your letters - small differences in style. And you sound very young! And happy!

First, about English: I spent my first year in college English just floundering, feeling that I must learn everything, memorize everything, understand the implications of everything, and was all confused. And got a B. But you're right - the first thing is to really look for personal enjoyment.

The second thing is to try to understand why you enjoy it - what it warms in you and what was similar in the poet or writer to what you are: you clarify two things at once.

The third thing is to think of all the ways he could have spoiled that contact with you by writing the thing less expertly, and comparing his way with whatever your way would have been - that's how you understand style without being irrelevant. After a while there's a little family of writers you know in this way and they start talking back and forth to each other as well as to you. Then you're a critic, and a good one!

I've spent years trying to work out a way of doing English and this is what I've finally worked out - for film as well, because I badly need a frame for my film reviews. I'm trying it out on Tennyson, and my philosophers too - and all the time, biographies and autobiographies are important.

It's exciting that a poem should have told you how I feel about dancing!

You've got English, history, sociology, education - and what's the other one?

It's 3 a.m. now - I've just taken a review down to the Journal office to have it typeset and am coffee-wide-awake. But you'll be glad to know that I long ago lost my ability to stay up all night. I need eight hours every night. It's a shame. You'll be glad to know, also, that the absorption of so much material is as difficult - impossible - for me as for you. The trick is organizing it so that only a little of it needs to be absorbed.

Rudy's picture is a good one - what a nice face he has! If he likes cats, he'd love our small grey cat with its bald tail-tip: Pierre is idiotically affectionate, sleeps on my lap purring like an engine while I'm typing, chews my chair, bites my shoulder. When he hears Greg's footstep, or Michel's, on the stairs, he rushes down to meet them. If a human even brushes against him accidentally in passing he purrs for joy. This charm of his works of course: all three of us slyly feed him milk when the others aren't around. Petercat has moved in his attitude to Pierre from hostility to disdain - he'll give him a nasty swat if Pierre bumptiously comes too near - which he always does because he's afraid of nothing - and chase him under the stove. Petercat is too large to get under so Pierre lies low and bats out at him with a very quick paw. The rest of the time Petercat stalks about looking malevolent - I think he's bitter because Olivia abandoned him to us.

We had snow too - gone now - deep, very beautiful. It reminded me of the first snowfall walks taken with Olivia and I missed her. I need someone to talk to about English. I guess I'll talk to you.

Got a letter from Paul, who sounds happy. We are making plans to have our Christmas here. I think I'll make my first fruitcake. We'll use Greg's place since he and Michel will be gone for the holidays; and we'll put some fire in the fireplace, listen to the records - but have a chicken or duck rather than a turkey, believe me!

Hey, I think we do give you credit for understanding why we've grown away from you, and we are glad for your understanding. But you know understanding changes things only so far. (Don't stop understanding - it changes things a little.)

I got a letter from Uncle Walter - he wrote to congratulate me for my scholarship. Did you send G'ma Epp a newspaper clipping from the Grande Prairie paper? What picture did they use - that old high school one? Anyway, he wrote two full pages, asked me to tell him about Judy and Paul: very sincere and warm. I think he feels we're the only relatives at all like him - in a way he's our generation. (I can't imagine anyone further apart than Uncle Bill and him.) Anyway, he seems to like us.

Sunday November 26

[letter]

It's been a good Sunday afternoon - I've written Olivia and Grandpa Epp and Grandma (to thank them for the $10 they've just sent as a Christmas present) and then Greg and I took Krista out into the country to wander in a nearby game preserve with moss, ferns, glacial rocks, and beavers.

Krista [Maeots] is a new friend - she's editor of the Journal this year and I've gotten to know her during film classes as well as when I bring in film reviews. We've made friendly gestures for some time - on Friday she and Joan invited me out with them and she became very open. I'm glad to know her because she's a remarkable person, especially remarkable as a girl. When she left high school in Calgary she worked as a reporter for the Calgary Herald for two years. This year she's finishing a BA in political science and English. She's excited about films - as well as nearly everything she does. She has many of the same sorts of hangups as I - loneliness in high school, alienation from parents, minority group background (Estonian), independence: she even had the same sort of childish reaction when she went home and her parents didn't want her to wear her bluejeans everywhere! Tears and feelings of extreme estrangement - but she seems a little ahead of me in getting rid of them. She's blond, blue-eyed, and looks fourteen - she nearly always goes to classes and parties in bluejeans and cowboy boots. Her voice is a husky little whisper - no one would guess how capable she is. She too hitchhiked east by herself, from Calgary, this summer! I'm looking forward to knowing her better. You'd like her - she's knowledgeable about politics in Canada, and is really very political, but she's just as interested in literature.

[Krista later was active in women's politics and the NDP Waffle in Canada, was CBC Morningside producer before she died in 1978.]

Krista, by the way, also likes Harcourt very much - I still think he's the most wonderful professor ever to happen to Queen's, in his way, in his funny original childlike superconsious way.

Back to Hegel and Sartre - I have to lead the discussion about one of our films in Harcourt's class.

[undated letter]

Among my papers I found a journal note written I think when I was seventeen. It described a scene like this: I was studying by lamplight, actually daydreaming when you came in and asked, "Are you studying or are you writing a letter?" "Studying." "But you weren't thinking of studies were you?" "No." "You had that look on your face. Don't look that way - yes, do look that way, it's you. It's just that when you look that way I feel as tho' it's me sitting there." The note reminded me of a closeness we no longer have - but also of your continuing miraculous ability to respond to people. It is so rare, so absent in nearly everyone I know that I might not miss it as much as I do if you hadn't been my mother. Your last letter was a new example of it - you are growing all the time and even better, it makes you happy to realize it. You're rare - you and Bill too, whom you would like because you have so much in common after all.

There was another entry, describing the wedding in Valhalla that we went to with Father one night: I talked about how much you wanted to go to school and how you also wanted to be, like the Stolees, gracious, graceful, distinctive - and I wrote that I didn't think you would ever do either. Now you are going to school, and the gracious-graceful-distinctive characteristics are growing out of your natural unselfishness with experiences and successes - so really I've no reason any longer for wanting to change your life. You have the chances you need and more than enough capability of using them: I'm more and more sure of this and more and more willing to watch and learn rather than deplore and criticize. It's as though you've graduated and I now have to just have confidence. We always mix our roles don't we?

Your letter pleased me very much; I felt much more hopeful about possibilities for our understanding each other again, as we did before my most important ideas changed so much.

In summary - yes: I am interested in your growing up and I hope my recurring mistakes in interpretation don't discourage you from telling me - enthusiastically, often, in detail.

3 December

[journal]

My face has changed in the last three years. People who knew me before I went to Europe don't always know it. There I am at the bottom of the mirror, like a fish lying on the bottom of a round-sided jar: face with hair falling down on either side, circles around my eyes (hard, adult eyes, like round stones). It has a large, raw look about it, aggressive when still, or stony and resistant, rather blunt: strong but not warm. When I smile the effect is different, there's an eyebrow-raised shift in the contours so that my long sullen cheeks bunch up under my eyes.

One afternoon last week I sat on the stool in Greg's kitchen talking about Huis Clos and Sartre's fascination with the threat of another face looking at one - the vulnerability of being seen as something you can only partially remember becoming or seeing in mirrors. Where can I classify myself as face and body-moving-speaking object complex? With Jeanie Rosenberg who looks intelligent but not beautiful, pretty for moments on good days? I suppose. I vacillate even now between disgusted underrating and childlike overrating (the times at home, when I was twelve or thirteen, I suppose - I would carry the kerosene lamp into my parents' bedroom on nights when they weren't home and hold it below my face as I smiled into the mirror. The light thrown from below, its yellow-orange color and the strong shadows it cast, made me beautiful and I sometimes remembered myself as that face),

I'm anxious constantly about this resistant non-thing that keeps me five feet off the floor, and the fatty bony clay thing thru which I peer from two round holes. Neither will do, they aren't me - but there's no exposing their masquerade because what I am is the carefully collected chosen features of people who won't recognize my need of them and keep them for themselves, like the Black Russian, seeming not to know the power of the non-thing that she too may not recognize as herself.

7 December

Sense of color: Olivia's long letter from Oxford, not strange, remembering me. Don's renaissance into books, paintings, movies, concerts, his being happy with Olivia. Cat lying against my left arm as I write, purring as he falls asleep. Greg having gone to sleep disgruntled. Mad Murray at the Cine-Guild meeting in her green knit dress, across the table from me showing me the green in her eye, standing at an office doorway with the overhead light making her hair brassy, coming downstairs with me after having left the cream out in the English lounge, both of us laughing as we walked over the stiff frozen grass and sliding on the black surface of the sidewalks after a freezing rain. Jackie Roddick's beautiful poem, Mad's description of how she too stands in front of mirrors, "touching myself," how she's leaving school partly because she's a failure with people. She has no little games like Mad and doesn't want them. I know her: she wants to be recognized as she is, by someone who will suddenly see her and know. It's sad that it is touching to think of her in front of a mirror - Jackie with her short round calves, always in black tights and squashed shoes, round pink straightforward face, controlled strong voice, capability and that amazing poem with its lucidity and fragility.

Harcourt's arm along the side of mine during a segment of Diary of a Chambermaid this afternoon, moments when I was at ease during my presentation this afternoon, the feeling of euphoria afterwards because it had gone well. Outcroppings of arrogance from time to time - about being able to think or write, or play, or speak as well as, the better. Being friends with Krista, learning to know people in the class like Grace and Bill and Frank and John Glassco.

Harcourt's gossipy intimacy - how real is it? I told him on impulse that I was trying to learn something from him for my English class papers - relevance, personalness. "A relevance English literature had stopped having for me," H.

11 December

What about Peter Harcourt, why is his style of life as it is? This personability, his 'innocence' or straightforwardness. Is it courage? What does he do when he really wants to reach out toward someone? How much room is there for a special gesture or a sudden generosity? His generosity is effective generosity - when we speak to him and he seems really to see us and to want us to like him - we're happy - but would it ever be possible to forget that this generosity is not especially for us? I could ask him - it's an attractive style, does it work? Don't you feel displayed, scattered, public? What do you keep? Do you have enough energy for everyone? Is your wife left out? Your children? Why do you hate Christmas? - Because as so public you can't possibly afford to be sentimental?

He repeats things - sometimes he'll tell people things twice that he's obviously told other people many times. There's a kind of facility in his offhand compliments. Does he have a sense of power over moist-eyed Trigg who confides in him?

And Madeleine Murray, who is so much like him, terribly personal with everyone, funny, complimentary, inevitably charming, not quite trustworthy.

-

For our last (Christmas) class, Harcourt showed The Golden Coach with Anna Magnani as Columbine - solid face, hard round eyes, incredulous scraping voice, "Ferdinand, sit down!" and a laugh like stones bumping down an incline - a landslide. "Do you miss them?" "A leetle." The King's Viceroy, the child acrobats, the stage at the beginning and end.

Harcourt rising from the waves of seats as the lights come on, peer at him over the tops of my knees, the audience has been close for nearly two hours, it's been funny, we've been aware of each other's laughs and comments, we're slow to leave but I hurry because I haven't anything to say - just jump up to look at my bottom in the mirror and go down the Ellis Hall steps in pointed-toed leaps. Stars brilliant, turquoise blue sky, cold, Steve behind, then across the street, where's Harcourt, leap across sidewalks, God someone's watching, runs across the street, Harcourt I feel as though I wish I had a very good friend. What would you do? Not talk; run to the park or jump over cracks like these, here between the parked cars and the frozen Chemistry Building grass, both feel as I do, know it. What about Greg? His main --- isn't spontaneity. His main --- isn't energy. There was somebody but she isn't here this year.

Saturday evening

[undated letter]

Buns and mousse before going to bed, hard boiled eggs and tea? I'm following one of your traditions: there's a pan of bread dough rising on the floor beside the rad, and a pumpkin cake in the oven. The Creation and Small Cat lying against my writing arm, purring.

Do you have time left over after homework to think about Christmas? I've begun to feel quite motherly at the thought of Judy and Paul coming - I made a fruitcake, did I tell you? Full of stuff, really packed - cut up figs and dried apricots soaked in cherry brandy, etc - and now resting in a wine-y cloth, mellowing for Christmas. At the same time I made my first loaf of bread (a sweet dough recipe) and some cinnamon rolls which I packed with nuts and raisins, but forgot the cinnamon - the bread turned out extremely well, fine textured and well risen and all, so I've become arrogant enough to try regular white bread today. Will you tell me how you make your brown bread? I still like all the pounding and kneading and the suspense of seeing whether it will really rise - such a wrinkled flat lump of dough.

Also - very urgent - please immediately send your Christmas pudding recipe, Paul said he wanted to have some this year, in remembrance of the jar of it he had for last year's Christmas dinner.

I saw both Judy and Paul last weekend, on Sunday. Victoria had invited Greg to a concert with the violinist Oistrach and Neil had lent him the Triumph, so we set out at dawn on Sunday morning down the 401 to Toronto - on the way the leaves were all outlined in wet white snow that blew against them from one direction only - it was beautiful and no one else was on the road. When we got to Toronto the sun was shining - we found Paul's address in the Chinese district not far from City Hall. A slight, good looking Chinese boy answered the door and showed us up the very clean Victorian hall and stairway to room #3 - Paul was in, remains of a porridge breakfast, basket of apples, books and records, some Christmas presents we shouldn't have seen - a very clean pleasant room, with a socket in the wall where the gas had been led in, in the very old days before electricity in Toronto!

(The pumpkin cake is out - not burned.) Greg took the car up to York to get Judy while Paul told me about his summer's adventures. Both J and P look good - Paul's hair is longer, and he's so gay he can't keep his face pinned down. Judy was wearing brown eye shadow that made her look Italian and very pretty.

We sat and ate apples, joked and reminisced, felt really happy to be together (the first time for the three of us since the Rasheed summer). Then Harvey came to pick us up in the station wagon - Toozie sat as far into the corner as she could and hugged her doll. Maria pretended not to see me - made obvious conversation with her father until she forgot to be shy. When we got inside the door the kids all dived for Paul's furry Russian hat and harassed him generally. Maria eventually talked to me. I asked her if she'd told her parents about things in the summer - about chasing the pigs and about the raft. She said no, she'd wanted to have secrets. But she was still full of glee about being the only one to have been able to float the raft. Anne says she likes school but is too lazy to learn to read.

Anne herself is looking younger and less tired. Chin is less of a baby and Toozie is going to nursery school - the kid is doing wonderful large paintings, hundreds of them; she has pigtails now.

We had borscht - your kind, made with chicken - for dinner. Candlelight - and purist Maria went around making sure all the doors were closed so there was no extra light.

When the kids went to bed we sat around - Harvey beat Paul at chess, then Paul beat him. We told them all the dreadful stages their family will have to go through - the two-against-one conspirings have already begun. Harvey seems to like Paul - talks to him seriously and with less reserve than he does to us.

When Greg came back from the concert at midnight we drove back to Kingston, fighting sleep - and I had to get up early to prepare a Hegel paper.

Exam period is coming - I have only one, and an essay. Krista has flown home to Calgary, other people are going in all directions. Olivia wrote a very long letter - she says Don is much less driven this year and can go to concerts, ballets, movies, visiting or picnicking, that he's rediscovered novels and people. As a result they are happier together than they have ever been. O says she misses me - which makes me glad: her whole letter was her old self, even tho' she mourned not being "eighteen and screwed up" still, having to become an adult and discover alienation. I miss her too.

In film class last Thursday I had to lead the class discussion. Peter Harcourt talked me into it - he's had a student do it once before but we don't usually like to because the class is large and rather intimidatingly intelligent. The film I was to discuss was Bunuel's Diary of a Chambermaid, a rather complex ambiguous film - I think Peter was pleased with the discussion (another great Peter you see!) because a few people spoke (my friends!) who don't usually say anything. The best part was picking up momentum and losing shyness.

In Cine Club the same night we learned how to splice film - even black and white is pretty expensive so I'll save my Christmas money - I can use Club equipment and we're going to have an editing room in one of the English annexes.

Greg has bought a box of mandarin oranges. He'd make a good father because he loves buying treats for people and makes a big thing out of holidays. His head of department says he's sure to get a Canada Council award to go to England next year, so this is probably our last year together.

I was invited last night to visit Michael Fox's place as a kind of Christmas party - he is my 19th century philosophy prof - and it was a good time because I enjoyed his wife (piano student, expecting her first child in 4 months) and learned some interesting philosophy gossip eg the faculty pool shark is our ponderous Dr Estall! This year I'm learning to know and feel peer to an unusual number of faculty members - it makes a difference to the classes afterwards. Don't forget the pudding recipe.

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The bread turned out rather spongy and a little yeast tasting although it was good. Luckily the whole loaf was eaten within an hour because the slices dried out very quickly. Would that be because of the extra half cup of water I accidentally put in? Or because I punched it down once too many times when the loaf came out very deformed-looking the first time?

Saturday Dec 16

[letter]

Judy sent a note saying she may send one of Joanne's boyfriends down with Paul on Friday - some boy called Jay who'd be in residence otherwise. Maybe we'll have a Christmas like your traditional ones, with strays of all kinds. Mouths to feed - I'm pleased with the idea. But there isn't any snow, and there hasn't been this year except for three days long ago. I've a new record tho', of early Italian lauds or religious folk songs, very beautiful and very Christmas like.

I've been wanting to tell you about the apartment at 40 Clergy East - the winter atmosphere which is really very pleasant - on the first landing, two cats' dishes - when either of them hear the rattle of the cat food in the saucers they drop from the second landing like missiles, and there's usually a funny contest between them to see who'll eat at one of the bowls while the other is ignored. Music coming from the first floor - my lauds, or jazz or folk-rock or The Creation - from Greg's record player which is constantly on while he works. When he recognizes my uneven clumping on the stairs he usually whistles to make sure and then comes out to hug me hello - shortly afterwards Michel comes downstairs to make coffee or get one of his many snacks or show Greg something queer he's found in one of their politics texts - he says "bonjour" always (and on the telephone, "âllo," asserting his Frenchness) and likes to sit down across the table in the kitchen while the kettle boils to talk about politics to Greg, or people and his experiences in Mexico to me. If it's early afternoon we all hang around until 1:30 p.m. and listen for the thump of the mail as it's tossed inside the door downstairs. Michel always gets a letter or two, every day, and his Montreal newspaper. Greg gets things from universities and I usually end up with library notices.

Meanwhile Cat is sleeping on the radiator in Greg's room, or if it's sunny, on the wide windowsill beside his desk. Petercat comes in hungry, mieuws until he's fed, and then goes to sleep in Olivia's old red armchair in the hall. Greg's two rooms are tidy - large bed flat on the floor under a very low-silled window, covered with a red woven thing. Many books, sound of typing or else of pots scraping in the kitchen as somebody cooks, with a speaker from the phonograph led in for company. Smells of all kinds - a lot of oatmeal smells when Greg cooks and baked potato smells when Michel cooks.

Sunday - I was writing this last night while waiting for a young man to pick me up to go to the Psychology Department party - 'young man' definitely, not 'boy' or even 'friend' - 'young man' because his name is John Glassco whose uncle was responsible for the Glassco Commission Report and whose father is Big in the Brazilian Traction Company - somebody whose life in Canada has been as different from ours as it is possible to be in this country - dancing school as a boy! Two original Tom Thompson's at home. Old Family. He's a very gentle person in spite of it, seemingly without arrogance. It seems that even with all the money they have his father made the 6 children work their way through school, and so John has, even in mines in the north - I think it's astonishing and it was obviously successful.

For the Christmas party we all had to bring a "50¢ present suitably wrapped" - I gave away a basket of kumquats! And got a package of bath salts from a Santa Claus called Wiebe. (Wiebe is in the English department - he's from south of Winnipeg, he was a 'Conference' and is now an Anglican - he's quite repulsive, very opinionated and insensitive.)


part 3


raw forming volume 7: august 1967 - september 1968
work & days: a lifetime journal project