raw forming volume 6 part 1 - 1966 september-december  work & days: a lifetime journal project

September 1966

[undated journal scrap]

Beamsville, Ontario

Art's room at the Neufeld's, small, at the top of the stairs.

Something of the slow bright sad swirl of life manages to reach me tonight as I look around my books, at Thomas Wolfe and Durrell and Mauriac, and as I think about Father and Judy, Jerry, Olivia, Paul; this tiny trashy room at Neufelds', my mind stumbling against the reality of Wolfe's time and Durrell's love and Mauriac's death ("les drapeaux"). Worried about whether Judy will be lost or unhappy. Wondering whether Paul will be lost, Mother, Father, Rudy, Jerry and Frank - Indra! Janeen. I cherish enough people, "I have a fine life," but I see that they will die and be lost, how can I be gay with them? It's as it was with Mitchell, the poignancy of his face paralyzed me and I could no longer see past the skull, the "bright yolk" moving. Olivia's passion for the present makes us love her; it saves Don from existential despair as well.

[undated letter]

Your ragged note from the hopper came yesterday - its creases and grime conveyed perfectly your haste and your great determination to write those daughters who (you think) have escaped from Drockezeit forever (but little do you know! how I've managed to sell myself to 14 hours per day of it again, its Ontario variety and voluntarily). (But back to school next week.) I can see you, Mother, nose covered with fine black dust, baggy pants and blue eyes - I've longed to come and see you but there seems no way.

It's Sunday and I'm home alone at the Neufeld's, listening to Radio Canada and piano, happy, thinking about people I like, looking at maps, writing ol' Jerry, reading a book called "The Meaning of Death." A while ago Judy phoned from Toronto, and I read her your letter. She's excited and seems happy.

Last weekend: I hit the road with my thumb, as it were, right after work, and arrived in Toronto just as Uncle was finishing telling a Whisper Story to Marie and Toozie on the living room carpet. (Whisper is a horse.) As I arrived over the neighbourhood lawns, I could see Judy through the window. When I got to the door, she was there. My impression - "She's fatter!" Hers - "She's skinnier!"

Olivia has found an apartment - all I know is that it has a balcony, a fireplace, and a stained glass window ("The ugliest stained glass window I've ever seen," says Olivia) and my address now is 179 Division Street. (Yes, school has started, it's been two weeks now.)

[undated letter]

The aforesaid Dycks will be coming to Beamsville on Saturday afternoon, with Judy, to come and fetch me back to Toronto, where I will spend two or three days shopping and then hike on to Kingston to begin classes - at last. (I've earned about $250.00, nearly enough to pay back the airplane debt - but when I've given Judy the $100 I still owe her, which she needs now, and bought some shoes - the sneakers Barberousse found for me in a corner of a basement have worn out - and some material for a winter coat, and books, there won't be a very large percentage left. I have a few tricks up my sleeve but the more-than-five-and-a-half hundred dollars owing to Father and the bank are sitting pretty heavy. (Well - look who went to Europe - I've no right to complain and I'm not complaining, but I'm frustrated at not being able to pay you promptly, that's all, so I can go again.) I'll try to get some part-time work, but I've hardly any time to spare from studying because I have six courses this year rather than the usual five, and one or two of them - for example Philosophy 264 Rationalism and Empiricism - will be very, very difficult. Also, since I've had my results from the last year I was at Queen's and found that my average is still an A, even if meagerly so after that chaotic year, I'm determined to graduate summa cum laude, with highest honours, that is with a straight-A average in the last two years. That means work to an inhuman extent almost like grade 12, hum?

This is going to be a relatively - to the last one - tranquil and studious year - I've come back from Europe much more sure of myself - not socially this time, but philosophically - ie I know what kind of life suits me and what I can expect to be and do - in relationship to all the conflicting ideas other people have of what I should do and be ... wind, breath! so, as I was saying, I'm likely to be a rock of determination this year, a paragon of spinsterly perfections, a steel girded stoic scholar untempted by frivolity and untouched by frenzy. How bored you'll all be, and how you'll wish I could fall in love or do something that might upset me.

The Neufelds and the fruit tramps and Portuguese with whom I work are characters from a Mennonite Dickens, and as I pack wet potatoes into baskets or sort apples I write their descriptions to you in my mind, but every evening when I sit down after finishing work at nine, as you see, the words have fled. Next letter will be on the familiar typewriter; perhaps it will bring back the flow. But it's as if I'm still in mourning for the lost journal. The joy of words is feeble and they have lost their snap. Maybe the typewriter can bring them back.

[undated journal]

"Hung up on men" - that is still there Jerry, and I'm glad for it. At the Bitter Grounds tonight with Norman, there was a sharp charm to the floodlit profiles of the boy and girl singing, isolated and intimate with their songs, the boy's face beside and a little above the girl's in careful precise counterpoint just as their voices - careful and precise - ran on beside each other, his a little above hers, or hers above his, always effortlessly spaced.

To Ricky Johnston's face as he leaned against the doorpost, muffled to his chin, with Bonnie's profile beside him covered by her blond hair. He leaned his chin backwards and the bones of his face were softened so that he looked very young - I wondered if he understood the composition of their faces, angles, one backwards and one forwards. I think he did.

- To the thin long lines of boys' bodies, their legs in bluejeans, the backs of their necks, and the shadows around their faces as they leaned forward over candles.

Thanksgiving Day, Monday [10 Oct]

[letter]

And now I'll begin to write again because I have a room and a desk for my typewriter and an address for you to put on envelopes. Judy has just been here for the weekend, helping to paint and clean, steeped in a briny three-day solution of all my most eccentric friends, including Olivia and Don and Danny Noffke and Mark and Peter. She will tell you about them herself, and about me I suppose. (Last weekend when I was shopping in Toronto I stayed with Judy one night on the floor in her residence room - what a kind unEppish person Judy is!)

Walter Epp was here on Saturday, on his way back to Vancouver from a holiday in Quebec with Rosemary. He strolled in as we were on stepladders painting Olivia's room, and made a date to take us all to dinner that night. Rosemary was sick and couldn't come, but Olivia came with us and we had a wonderful dinner with excellent company - Walter is a real person, and with our always increasing confidence we aren't as uneasy with him as we were. Olivia was as charmed as we were. He is beautiful too, although he looks much older since last summer - he's lean and elegant and he is beginning to look wise and distinguished - I wonder if he has as much character as his face shows? His eyes especially have become blacker and his face has become stronger because of it. All four of the Epp siblings have faces that are terribly moving - they are all alike too, sharp and expressive. Walter is the handsomest, but father has the most powerful face. Lily's is pretty but too sharp and strong to be traditionally feminine (like mine! although mine is not so finely made).

Tuesday

[undated letter]

Imagine a room 10x10 square, white ceiling, white walls, white door and window frames and baseboard, gleaming hardwood floor. The window is large and tall, and the bottom half of it is divided into six panels of stained glass: the two outer panes on each side are red, and the middle ones blue, with designs on them in white. To the left of the window and tacked up about two feet from the floor, is a photograph of Jean-Jacques, Alain, and Jean-Pierre among the rocks at Delphi in Greece. Beside it, against the next wall, is a very low very narrow cot painted blue and covered with a blue bedspread. On this wall there is only a small homemade postcard from Jerry, moss green, just a little higher than my pillow! The rest of the wall is bare because, when the early sun shines through the window, it throws a brilliant pattern of red and sapphire on the wall.

The wall opposite the window, a stark desert landscape in blue tones and a map of the world with pictures and postcards pinned onto it (Andy from Rome is pinned into the Atlantic Ocean halfway between Rumania and Minnesota). Beside the right hand wall is the door that leads to Olivia's room. This wall is covered with a ceiling-height row of cupboards - my red hitchhiking cap is hanging dejectedly from one of the top door handles. On a level with it is Klee's print of magic fishes in a black ocean. On the window wall again, to the right of the window this time, there is a 'letter' from Jerry, about 16" x 12" of white construction paper with tiny writing and squares of orange and red in a pattern. The desk with the typewriter is a long narrow table that butts out into the middle of the room from beside the window. No other furniture. The effect of the whole room is one of starkness and precision - a cell, but a cell full of light.

Wednesday

First went to classes today, a brilliant typical Kingston day with Lower Campus blazing in reds and golds, wind sifting through the leaves there are left, a strange leaf-rot smell almost like bananas. Courses? First this morning was a course I have with Olivia, a philosophy course that talks about how we know what we know and so on. Dr Estall is a small neat man with a huge head and a large loose-skinned face that twists itself because of his hairy expressive eyebrows. He speaks slowly and absently and pedantically, but there is a hint of suppressed wryness that makes him interesting.

Afternoon - course in English Romantic poets with Doctor Walley. He sits at one end of the long lecture table and I am at the other end, and that thin distinguished face confronts me so directly that it frightens me, and those humorous tragic eyes dig me out of my stupor, and that controlled beautiful voice goes on saying incredible things that I understand with excitement, but that no one has ever said to me before!

Don is here every night to eat with us. We take turns cooking and washing up. Olivia is a good cook, with ingenious ideas for cheap meals and a generous hand with spices. In this way we eat very well and cheaply - meat and potatoes and all, for a dollar a day divided into three meals. I'll even learn to cook. Oh - I canned some peaches and pears at Neufelds', with slices of lemon and very little sugar in the syrup, different but very good. And some peach jam that is glorious. Experimenting with Italian things, and Chinese.

Difficult to concentrate. Restlessness. Good weather and wild leaves .

Got a letter from Frank. Fall always makes him sad.

Academic Saturday

Color and warmth, a walk downtown shopping with Olivia, munching fresh butter buns, a tour of Cooke's food store (you remember that it is the old country store with the exotic foods and old Mr Cooke personally welcoming the clients - we bought some cheese and some wine! And best of all, we went down to visit Hutch and Nelly and got a skinny gleaming black kitten, our Peter-cat, who is down in the kitchen now cowering under a chair as Olivia cooks supper. I look in the fridge, and it's full! I look in my room and it's beautiful! I have a season ticket to the foreign movies! I have an English course which is wonderful and an English course with a wonderful professor! Equals = security!

There is a little round table in the hallway that mail is put into, but there never is any for me.

Please send some recipes for how you make pigs-in-blankets, Mother, and macaroni-cheese-corn casserole.

If you send Judy stuff please enclose my huge Webster's dictionary and my Psychology 2 essays if you can find them. They should be in a black folder.

Cooking is not so bad - I made those Mennonite things with apples in long rolls of pie crust.

18 October

[journal]

The trees in Lower Campus, when you come up Queen's Crescent from the English Annex, arrange themselves in overlapping bands of color fusing and streaking with the violence of sideways motion, but at the same time delicate and pointillist (the Seurat tree Jerry showed me on the hill across from the Colosseum) and hard as enamel.

I wore red shoes, yellow stockings, short navy skirt and long navy sweater, the hitchhiking bag over my shoulder and the red cap. People who met me smiled - I don't know if from approval or amusement.

DH Lawrence is one of the best poets I've read. The Cumulative Biography absorbs me; I feel that he himself absorbs me because he is me, but all that I am is extended in him, pushed out indefinitely further than my own ego amoebic cell walls. Saddening but exhilerating.

Loneliness. There's Olivia as a foil for it, the soreness of a friend who is not a friend (like Mitchell, but not yet so acute). She's not interested in me, and since her relationship with Don has become secure, beyond an ear for her talking-to-herself and the economic convenience of a roommate, she no longer needs me either so is in the bargaining position.

I won't bargain - of course - and so act rather childish. When I begin to say something, she nearly always cuts it off, and I'm left resentful with my half-story, a half-sentence, half-image. She manages to make me feel an inept and basically uninteresting 'roommate'-domestic. Conflict - I realize the pettiness of resenting her basic indifference (superficial and habitual interest is still there, "When your face is in repose you look miserable") because it is God-knows-how-normal in almost everyone toward everyone, and she certainly doesn't owe it to anyone but herself to be interested. (But it makes me sad!) And I'm irritated to see how ego-centric I am, how oversensitive and - needy. It embarrasses me to be needy, even when I realize that it's not the fact of need but dependency in handling it that is humiliating. I don't trust Olivia and I won't talk to her because I'm vulnerable now; there is nothing in my relationship with her now that makes me feel the ice is thick enough to walk onto and I certainly won't creep!

And when I'm disgusted with myself the dialogue says "but it's your fault because you're as ego-centric as she is, and if you'd make some effort with her perhaps the relationship would improve.

Me: "But it is she who's holding the trump cards so you'll be sure it's not I who'll make the effort."

D: "So it's your loss and don't sulk."

Me: "It's my loss, but it's her loss too, whether it makes any difference to her or not."

D: "Idiot boy. You think there are such interesting things in what you know and are, that she'll miss something because of your silence - because she can't appreciate what she doesn't know?"

Me: "Yes."

D: distain.

Me: wrinkled forehead, light off, window shut.

Good night D and O! And Peter.

[undated letter]

It is Sunday afternoon, I'm listening to a record I got (irresponsibly) on Saturday - it is the complete Creation by Haydn. It is gentler than the Messiah, but you'll remember the "Heavens are Telling" chorus.

I'm hearing it on Greg's - Don's roommate - stereo, and so get all the bass and horn nuances that are missed out when we hear it on our tinny little monaural player at home.

179 Division is home and haven. My room is filling slowly with books and pictures - sometimes, rarely, people - letters, coffee cups and apple cores, a sculpted bit of porous brick picked up on the seashore, and our Peter cat who loves to slide across the floor in a frenzy of chasing bits of kleenex.

It's home because it is full of warmth - Petercat is the best of friends - he plays with us when we're sad, and when we're quiet he walks over our chests to sniff our chins questioningly. If we pet him his purr turns into a roar of joy - when we sleep he lies down just over our ears and we fall asleep hearing his purr slide away into catsleep. He seems to realize that our faces are the focus of us - if we tilt them at him, he tilts his too - in short, the most beautiful, the most intelligent, the most affectionate kitten ever born.

Olivia too - there was an estrangement, strangeness at first but we found our contact again, with more tolerance than before, but as much confidence. Friends, a friend, a contact, are indescribably good for the human isolate - as you know. The relationship when it is good makes the 'me' more 'me,' and more articulately confidently 'me, and the 'you' more 'you.' Work is better, relationships with other people are better - one seems to have more resources for warmth when one has more practice in giving and getting of it.

Don too - with his intelligence, humour, unpredictability, complexity, gift of bringing people out.

The relationship between them - a vital, tense, often stormy thing, full of conflict because they want so much and are determined not to compromise either in what they want or in what they're unwilling to give up. The process, the struggle, intrigues me - and when they're in accord, the house is all the better for it.

A few other people come - not many, Greg sometimes - he's casual but warm in an unemotional way. Mark, Ray - they always come one at a time or a few at a time and there's no strain or artificiality.

More about the apartment: Olivia's room next to mine has on the middle of the long verandah wall, a white marble fireplace with a black wrought-iron grate. On the mantle piece two blue candleholders and a rose Don gave her. On the end wall, another tall window with brilliant turquoise curtains. On the long inside wall, a piece of printed fabric in blues that match the candlesticks and curtains. Her bed, a mattress on the floor opposite the fireplace. Books, printed bedspread, stuff lying around, Peter asleep on the tall back of a red frayed armchair, Olivia in glasses, slippers, long blue shirt reading at the desk, turning to look when I come in with her hair in long wisps flying around her face, expression of friendly curiosity, surrounded by pages of essay and coffee cups and cigarette butts - our two different rooms express us well.

There is a sliding door into the hall, which other people in the upstairs apartments use and which connects to the front door. This corner of the front hall is wonderful because the outside door has a transom panel in red glass, and the red light falls through the webby curtains of the inner door to create a red glow around a dim mirror on the side wall - beside the mirror is the little round table where somebody lays out our letters every morning.

The hall also connects to our area downstairs, where we have a bathtub on legs, draped with towels and without a plug, and a box for Peter, and an icy-cold storage room with potatoes and apples and my peach jam and mysterious boxes and locked cupboards belonging to other people.

The kitchen is a large room with a window looking at the legs of people passing along Division Street, with a wide window ledge for the record player, with a long red lawn chair and a small yellow one for conversations, a table beside the water heater, a pantry, a deep closet for irons and garbage and stuff, a long cupboard with sink, always covered with paraphernalia, grocery slips, books, spoons, breakfast dishes, tea bags, our wine bottle rolling pin.

And now we have a pumpkin, a tall thin one so it can have two faces, one for each of us.

Every Saturday morning I go down to Kingston Market and buy a bag full of good cheap stuff, looking at all the colors of pumpkins and squash and red or green peppers and jars of honey and baskets of apples . There's always a wind and it is usually cold, the farmers selling their produce are friendly, and it always exhilerates me so that I irresponsibly buy records to celebrate Saturday or - but this is a good irresponsibility - a ticket to the National Ballet which is coming to Kingston next Monday night! I'll wear the opera dress!

Tuesday

All last week was magnificent for mail. Monday - letter from Judy and one enclosed from you. Postcard from Grandma and Grandpa in Jamaica. Tuesday - letter from you. Wednesday - from Bill Volk, with a paperback book he liked. (Thank you for sending on the postcard from Lellie and Lucia in Athens - did you conclude they were my two afternoon kids?) Thursday - Jerry. Friday - Peter Dyck. Saturday - Barberousse in Paris. And Monday, yesterday, the letter from the Canadian Consulate in Athens, telling me that the purse I lost there last April has been found and would I like it?! The money was still in it! If only someone would find my packsack.

The working conditions are not and were never as bad as you pictured them, Mother - simply because none of the classes had done very much work. I work, but not excessively - sleep a lot - eat well - and have just been given a $200.00 extra bursary from Miss Royce, from the kindness of her all-kindness heart.

Winter is beginning - cold wind (makes the red lining of my cape flap) - and rain. Leaves in layers melting together in the mud.

Rationalism and Empiricism, by the way, is the course in 17th century philosophy beginning with Descartes.

I haven't been to Sunnyside yet, only by it (there was a small boy on a bicycle driving in the wind), but I'm told there is a new director.

- Have just been interrupted by Don's roommate Greg who - for two hours! two hours! - told me about his psychological problems! Why do men always seem so self-absorbed, so uninterested in personalities outside themselves? I know a few exceptions - needless to say the ones I prefer - but hardly any. Do you think this is unfair? Women seem to take it for granted and accepted; it makes me rage! But men do it because they're needy. (Aren't women? Why don't men worry about them?)

It's late - I'm going to Toronto tomorrow - Friday - to see Judy and hopefully Mitchell and the Dycks.

[undated letter, probably Oct 23]

Sunday night in Toronto, up among Harvey's books in the upstairs bedroom, looking out onto a maple-shaded street where the green lawns wash right down to the street and the moon comes up over brick chimneys - a street that is like Dick and Jane's street and all the pretty city streets in most of the books since then. I love it for its typicalness - it is like the myth illustrated, perfect to every detail of the flowering shrubs and casual attractive people. The Dycks have a red brick house like all the rest on the street, a white front door with a knocker, a row of front-room windows curving out over the bushes on the front lawn, a peaked roof over the upstairs windows, a narrow pretty sidewalk. In the back yard, there is a cherry tree with a swing and one thrilling branch that knocks against Maria's upstairs window. Harvey is a little more potty; sometimes he asks important, perceptive questions and neglects to listen to the answer, but when he plays with his children or when he makes his gentle, wry jokes he is warm and likeable. Anne is wonderful! I often think of you when I see her, Mother, because of an expression, a slant of her face, and the rare sweetness you both have.

Maria is five and a half, explosive, full of jealousies and enthusiasms and rages and needs and physical energy - tall and beautifully made with long curly hair and a stubborn strong face. She seems to have chosen me as her friend in the adult world, like an aunt but really only a cousin. "You aren't a lady, you are a student. Mommy is a lady." Toozie-Elizabeth has chosen Judy, and the choosing is mutual because Judy sees a great deal of the sweet shy Toopa-one in Tooz'. And Toozie is very appealing, just far enough into consciousness to be delighted with everything she experiences but baby enough not to be rocked by all the complexities that throw Maria onto the kitchen floor in howling frustration. So Toozie is the pet of most outsiders and Maria feels it - I like this Maria and I'm going to watch her grow up! Alexander, Ander, staggers all over the house, a solid sensible baby with a sturdy big face that looks like Harvey's - the little Alexander that I loved so much last fall in New York is lost and vanished - but it's silly to hold it against him.

Saturday October 29

[journal]

Unterrecker's book on Yeats excites me. A poem growing from an image which has an emotional intensity that makes it a symbol, not clearly understood but felt to be more important than it is possible to know. The image insists, it comes back, it asserts itself at moments when tension needs a pattern for concentration.

... the image of waking one morning in Athens, waking only half, and of turning to Jean-Jacques with complete freedom, and putting my arms around him as he half-turned to me with a response as free, light, dim, as mine.

The moment crystalizes and recrystalizes in my mind, always at the exact instant of turning, coming out of unconsciousness to a turning without antecedent and with no remembered continuity.

Now the moment has incorporated the tension of all the times when it has come back, and it grows into a symbol. I think this is what Yeats makes into poems or poem segments.

la multiplication des seuls

- Valéry

[undated letter]

Mother writes about Saturday baking, today Olivia is baking a raisin pie and it makes me think of home.

So you think that we are on the extreme end of a scale with Mrs Christiansen smiling her tiny inscrutable smile at the other end, Mother.

Thank you for the recipes - I'm using them, especially the holuptsi. We have another boarder now - Greg eats with us every evening too and puts his five dollars per week into the kettle - also he and Don do the dishes, so not only do we have more money but we do less work. When we go across the street to the Dominion store, where the boys in white aprons know us well, the pinchings and questions of "What is ..?" and "Where is ..?", on the Friday nights to do shopping we have a cart full enough to feed a family of eight children. Greg and Don eat like mammoths. Dinners are fun - they are both witty and we're all in a state of grace this year (maybe it is youth), and close. They also are intelligent enough to compliment our cooking.

It is five o'clock, dark outside, with a wind that is pushing the waves diagonally toward the rocks and gulls at the lake: I'm playing an album of songs by Claude Leveillée, one of the albums that was playing constantly in the third floor back office at AMI during the nights when I worked late with Barberousse or waited, stomach knotted, for Jean-Jacques to come back up the long flights of dirty stairs with the latest bad news. This white-walled room pulls together the long colored threads of so many times and places - I can't live in the present alone, there must always be some tangible past in the space I shape around myself, that I can put a hand on: losing those things, like the skull and the books and the journal, brings a strange panic. Tacked up beside the world map on the wall now is a self-portrait Maria did of herself, outlined in purple, standing on the tips of tall fat spikes of grass with her head holding up one of the thick rays of a green sun. She is wearing a patterned green dress and her red hair is drawn long as the dress. It's a beautiful picture! Another new picture is a black and white sketch of Yeats, the poet that I love better than anyone perhaps, an Irishman as arrogant and elegant as an Irishman can be - you'll hear more about him because I'm doing an essay on him and DH Lawrence.

About last weekend in Toronto - on Friday immediately after classes I hitchhiked to the highway and started off toward Toronto. There was a blizzard wind full of threat of snow, and I was soon frozen through, and there were few cars. But also hitchhiking west was a blond first year boy in a long furry lined army surplus coat who wrapped half the coat around me and made me happy just because of his friendliness.

Soon a ride right into Toronto, with a two-mile walk when I got lost trying to find York University. Finally I found the right bus and arrived at its gate. There is a long walk over lawns where the wind is cruelly direct and cold, then the low brick and concrete university buildings with a new residence rising high above the others. A red-bearded boy had gotten off the same bus, and when I got into the well lit courtyard of Founder's College he helped me to open the doors and find Judy - he said he didn't know her.

She was in her room shortening my opera dress and taking it in a little - we went out to supper and I saw her friend Joanne, who is very vivacious and intelligent. Then her friend Ron came over with some of his friends and we went down to the folk singing clubroom where I met her friend Peter who is Jamaican and sounds just like Basil, Rasheed's friend. After a while we went up to a party in the room of a friend of Ron, a boy called Orestes - and it was the red bearded boy!

There was a candle on the floor and Orestes was playing records. I liked the fact that he had decorated his room, that he listened to music with concentration, and that things flickered over his face as he thought them. We sat on the carpet talking until five a.m. - and then slept until after noon (roommate Karen wasn't home so I had a bed) and then ate all her chocolates and then I left her studying and went downtown to Anne and Harvey's where Maria had been waiting since morning. Anne is thin, looks worn, but is happy and funny. Harvey is collecting a folder of reviews done of his book. Magoo is getting tall and thin.

After supper I went to a play with Mitchell Bornstein (you remember him from Strasbourg - he is back in Toronto getting his last year for a BA and wants a fellowship to the University of London next year. I'd written him to tell him I was coming, expecting to spend a reminiscing evening at the Dyck's, but when I phoned him he had two tickets to see Ibsen's The Wild Duck! Have you read it Mother? You'll remember Doll's House. The play was at the famous Royal Alexandria Theatre, Toronto's gilt-and-crimson baroque old-fashioned theatre which was nearly torn down to make way for a parking lot, but which was saved by a wealthy Jewish bargain-and-discount store owner. It was all very glamorous, beautiful gowns and furs. Mitchell twice as handsome as I remember him, with his hair grown long, and twice as charming too. When we went to find a cappucino afterwards in memory of Rome, we found four of his Forest Hill upper-class-Jewish-intelligencia friends who were very witty and very pleasant. We all drove downtown to see the fantastic city hall lit up, with its new Henry Moore sculpture and the skating rink in the plaza and the trees all lit from below, and the clock face in the old town hall's clock tower shining like the moon.

On Sunday morning I was awoken by Maria and Toozie singing God Save the Queen very loudly upstairs - it was seven thirty a.m. Floods of sun through their big front room windows, the quiet street gleaming with peace and prosperity. Maria and Toozie and Magoo and I danced to classical music on the carpet, read hundreds of story books, and then took Anne with us for a walk along the railway tracks. Anne had one of her special dinners, with artichokes in lemon-butter sauce. The kids are all sophisticated about artichokes, and Maria had to show me how to eat them. After dinner the Dycks all together took me back to see Judy and then went off to explore the new Scarborough university campus - they had an expedition or exploration every Sunday.

I went home on the late train and learned Italian most of the way - I love this pattern of coming back, time after time, to the Kingston railway station at night and taking a taxi with all the other students who've come back on the same train.

Monday night was the ballet. I wore the opera dress and Olivia wore a beautiful turquoise dress she has and Don came too, and it poured rain so that the reflected lights ran along the streets, and the ballet was beautiful. Sad and lonely.

It rains every day, but today, Sunday, is beautiful.

Olivia - you needn't have any apprehensions this year - is the ideal roommate, hard working, considerate, stable, warm and funny. This year is turning out so well that I keep touching wood, it is too good to be true. Miss Royce - did I tell you? - has found a two hundred dollar additional bursary for me.

[new journal front pages]

"On ne peut jamais se connaître, mais seulment se raconter." S d B

"We do not truly possess our humanity and culture as long as we live only in the present, in our own accidental environment!" Kaufmann on Hegel

"At certain moments, always unforeseen, I become happy, most commonly when at hazard I have opened some book of verse .... Perhaps I am sitting in some crowded restaurant, the open book beside me, or closed, my excitement having over-brimmed the page. I look at strangers near as if I had known them all my life, and it seems strange that I cannot speak to them; everything fills me with affection, I have no longer any fears or any needs; I do not even remember that this happy mood must come to an end." Yeats

"Out of the strong shall come forth sweetness."

"Part of my sense of solitude was that I felt I would never know that supreme experience of life - that I think possible to the young - to share profoundly and then to touch. I have come out of that darkness a man you have never known - a man of genius, more gay, more miserable."

"The return is the essence of the whole movement as well as its final cause." Toynbee

"Negative capability - the ability to live without despair or creedal commitment in the ambiguities, the mysteries, the dusty answers and inconsistencies ... the open mind of the lover" Stauffer

Odos Chameleontos

"After the Rhine Journey come the poems of struggle for a living adjustment. The ceremonial glory of the sacrament passes from the forefront of consciousness and the period of adjustment to the background of life begins." Rexroth on Lawrence

"All visible objects, man, are but as pasteboard marks. But in each event - in the living act, the undoubled deed - there, some unknown but still reasoning thing puts forth the mouldings of its features from behind the unreasoning mask. If man will strike, strike through the mask! How can the prisoner reach outside except by thrusting through the wall? To me, the white whale is that wall, shoved near to me. Sometimes I think there's naught beyond. But 'tis enough. He tasks me; he heaps me; I see in him outrageous strength, with an inscrutable malice sinewing it. That inscrutable thing is chiefly what I hate; and be the white whale agent, or be the white whale principal, I will wreak that hate upon him." Ahab in The Quarter Deck, Ch XXXVI of Moby Dick

"We had become, with the approach of night, once more aware of loneliness and time - those two companions without whom no journey can yield us any thing." Durrell, Bitter Lemons

"The ethical view of the universe involves us at last in so many cruel and absurd contradictions, where the last vestiges of clarity and even reason itself seem ready to perish, that I have come to suspect that the aim of creation cannot be ethical at all, I would fondly believe that its object is purely spectacular: a spectacle for awe, love, adoration, or hate, if you like, but in this view alone - never for despair! These visions are a moral end in themselves! The rest is our affair - the laughter, the tears, the tenderness, the indignation, the high tranquility of a steeled heart, the detached curiosity of a subtle mind - that's our affair! And the unwearied self forgetful attention to every phase of the living universe reflected in our consciousness may be our appointed task on this earth - a task in which fate has perhaps engaged nothing of us except of conscience, gifted with a voice in order to bear true testimony to the visible wonder, the haunting terror, the infinite passions, and the illimitable serenity; to the supreme law and abiding mystery of the supreme spectacle." Joseph Conrad, Personal Record - Freund says "not a facile romanticism, but a difficult and ironic one."

14 November

[journal]

Greg - tenderness that I never dreamed - on Sunday morning the slow slanting of his hand from breast to rib to abdomen and back, light of a cold bright sun at the curtains, Rouault's Joan of Arc riding her black outlined horse with her head thrown back. My head thrown back onto his shoulder, gay and mad for the tenderness of him and the exact, tense watchfulness of my skin, the tense exact movement of limb over limb and along ... celebration of body, celebration of the other, celebration of separateness - separateness fired, intent, focused! Saturday night studying Descartes in his chair, listening to jazz, excited because of the new freedom to touch him. "Why don't you stay?" "I think I will stay."

Natural and happy to turn off lights with him and sit on his bed - it's nearly on the floor, wide, covered with a blue-patterned blanket - until he turned off the reading lamp too, undressed in the dark. And we went immediately to sleep together. It was late when we stopped talking. At nine we woke, stirred, turned - leg along leg - stretched together - and his hands moving over skin, gently; the bone hard against my thigh, his breath becoming rapid at my ear. I was wild toward him: happy with arms and long back and flat bottom, neck, thighs, prick, hands, all there and moving with me toward me because of me as I moved with, toward, because of him.

It was warm and I took off my sweater and bra, and he had reached for my back before I could turn - I was arched as a harp and he played the length of my breasts and ribs until I could hardly stand it.

We could turn when we were too happy or too wrung and clutch each other as a refuge from each other. Long and quiet; his face in repose and his mouth held carefully; his hair brassy blond at the top where it is thin, face like a child, like a child. I'm against his shoulder like a child and he is large, he's very strong. I'm strong as well and we celebrate body and each other. What else - everything we love, focused on, radiant from, the broad blue bed on the floor and this life close against my life warming it warming the bed, the room.

Tonight again, in my room, we lay together on the bed held as close as we can hold, and talked, and when he went home I could only smile idiot delight to Olivia.

15 Nov

Pink rose on the desk, bottom petals dropping, leaned toward the room, stiff delicate branches of fern horizontal around it like branches of a Japanese evergreen, the cut glass crystal wine bottle full of lines of light and the long stem slanting down - on the dark wood desk - and there, the chair upright, romantic. The wall of closets with Botticelli on the doors - the girl with flowers dropping from her mouth, the blue gowned Mary of the annunciation and the blown Angel. Jerry's composition of orange and red on white; and the brick ashtray with my winged dragon on the radiator. Form and love - Elie Faure and Kazanzakis' Report to Greco.

"Greg told us once that he has so much affection and no one to give it to," Olivia told me. He's happy, he's certain!

Sunday November 20

[journal]

There has been no journal since the yellow covered book was stolen in Paris (all the loose pages with their tiny square writing in pencil and thick blue pen, headings in Strasbourg and Rome and Greece, all of it lost now, words of conversations, portraits of moments, mosaic of what was important; minutes that I remember because I wrote about them then, and that fill me with desperation now because they were saved and are lost) and there has been no impulse to write.

But this year is happy in many ways and joy comes back from time to time. I'll try again - another bundle of letters saved from the fire or saved by a refugee from time - saved, but not safe yet.

Cahiers - notes.

Crise de solitude last night with Greg. ("This is not all, but enough?") Always the same sharp pain that rises from the knotted stomach until my eyes fill with tears that have to be laughed at, hidden, mocked for weakness. I remember a morning with Jean-Jacques, and I remember that in the evening he crossed the room when I came home and held me for a long time as he never did. With Mitchell the loneliness was amplified because he understood it and it grew until we fled from each other. Frank could always take it away by holding me and somehow absorbing it until it was he who was sad. It made me telephone Charles in a fury one afternoon to tell him I didn't want to ever see him again.

Greg doesn't understand and won't, but he held me helplessly until I forgot. This Sunday was not like last Sunday morning's peace and excitement. I'm backing away from him because he never knows how to touch something important in me or to surprise me into realizing him. It is sad to see the shutting up and moving away, because he is warm and childish. He seems to be hollow - but I feel as though I might help him if this could last. I need to be so tough. Last night he lay with his fuzzy head along my side and nursed - I was moved, but annoyed to find a child where I want a man.

I want a man? I want somebody with a penetration and impatience and intelligence to like me for what I am proud of and to tolerate only ungraciously what I am not proud of. Somebody who'll question and laugh as well as assent, so that assent will be real.

Jerry writes that he's coming!

Greg has no joy in his past - there is nothing he cherishes and would want to go back to; I can't understand how it is possible. He floats; I float as well, but like a sea plant with thousands of roots hanging down full of earth, always catching more earth.

22 November

When my mind jumped ahead to a thought of myself doing graduate work somewhere in Europe, five years from now, twenty six years old, there was a strange spark and I felt myself sitting in this long white nightgown (having forgotten the blue dots on it and the blue cover of Versfeld's Metaphysics of Descartes reflecting dust motes of light from the varnished surface) five years older, as old as Mother, not myself and yet myself. The paradox of time and the paradigm of identity - constant and vanishing.

I bought Olivia a journal exactly like this one, but front-face forward, with an inscription of "Olivia - journal for the out-turned toe." She rushed into the room tonight with her strange characteristic little head-shake of delight, and said, "I just wanted to thank you again for that journal, I've been writing pages and it really is out-turned!" She has begun to be more like me in that she's begun cherishing forms rather than only action and movement - she's written in her journal about the colors in her room and the wonderful balance of objects over her fireplace, even the exact relation of philodendron to dried rose in the brown bottle. Tonight she surprised me by saying that she wanted to write past things too as she remembered them.

This year is like the Sunday on the rocks below the Acropolis when Alain and I lay in the sun feeling all the relationships and forms of our lives falling into pattern. We had eaten little during the week, and on Sunday we had only enough money to buy a tin of spiced sardines and a loaf of bread - enough for two pieces each, dipped in the oil. Alain was carving the Esquidieu, talking about St Exupéry and the sacrament of eating sardines with bread. The grass was full of poppies and I wore a few in the rubberband of a pigtail. We lay back on the rock or climbed to look down to the Stoa and the city; sun warm on my bare midriff and over our bare feet. The Acropolis was dazzling above us - we were waiting at the foot, in preparation for visiting it later in the afternoon. (I remember the American boy Lellie and I picked up when he was camped on the square beside the cathedral saying that he had waited for weeks before he was ready to climb up to the Acropolis. He had sat on my bluff looking across to it.)

While the sun was still hot and we still at peace among the brilliant poppies I felt all my past - Father, Olivia, Mother, Frank, Jerry, Peter and Mitchell, La Glace and Sexsmith and Kingston and Clearbrook and Europe - all precisely, miraculously and wonderfully held together with this afternoon and these rocks and Alain. (The tea-colored eyes that squinted without his glasses, the hollow cheeks and the tuft of goat-beard that tried to hide the way he held his mouth - always carefully as if it would begin to tremble with the terrible sensitivity of his feelings. I was his "Indienne," the wild brown girl who seemed free and arrogant tho' not free of the 'crabe.'

We sat one evening on the hostel steps at Odos Didotou and he said "J'ai un peu le crabe." "Pourquoi?" "C'est à cause de toi." When he had gone to Israel he wrote from a shack near the beach at Eilat, "Qu'est-ce qu'on a pu etre heureux, nous deux!" He becomes confused in my mind with Jean-Jacques. With both, I walked always with one arm across their back and their arm around my shoulder, miles of streets in Athens; we fell into position naturally, always just as we turned the corner from the hostel going down toward Kyrie Simo's café. I always wore bluejeans and Jerry's yellow teeshirt, the corduroy jacket and usually the furry brown sweater tied around my neck like Hercules' lion skin on the stamp. Fernando -

5 December

Greg: change into a relation that has so much sweetness and closeness that I am touched and surprised now. We make love and lie interwrapped, terribly happy, skins stretched tight with tenderness, never isolated. He has a gift of warmth I could never have guessed. And he's terribly happy too: he says his friends don't recognize him. I think he is becoming more sure, more arrogant. Yesterday we wrestled and he spanked me: he is strong and I'm pleased. There is a bit of the myth-man-and-woman in our relationship, and I find myself basking in it. But the real and serious contempt of women that I've found so often, that Kazanzakis explained as [?] does not exist in Greg and I never have to back off from him anymore. I want to see how he has been so well made, without malice and pettiness!

Hard bits of snow rattle against the window, in one of the square panes two branches of a black oak sway dropping slowly as seaweed in grey water. Professor Estall is talking about natural law and statute law becoming one in the concept of God as creator. We lay last night under the blue and white blanket and the wind howled outside the blue black square of the window. The room was cold, we were warm where our backs touched, and we slept.

Grant Hall was changed last night into an abbey church with tall yellow paned windows, high squat colonnades under the eaves, stone tower and arched door, neither Gothic nor Romanesque, but romantic in the blue moon-like street lamp, with candles moving inside and music coming faintly from the inside. Olivia and I went to the carol service, but those around us sang badly, the carols were badly presented on the screen, long unknown stanzas were dragged out endlessly, the pitch was too high, the choir leader was a silly woman in a sheath and high heels and the carols themselves seemed feeble, ridiculous. We left entirely disappointed wondering if Christmas is already ruined for us.

People in the class are consistently ugly; Olivia is pretty; Don with his large oval-shaped Byzantine eyes - blue not black - and red hair springing up from the triangular face is beautiful; Greg when he takes off his glasses and his hair stands out sideways on his head has a face that moves me; but all these faces are full of dullness and passivity; these ugly clothes and these sloshing walks.

Friday afternoon - cruelly cold air; art books at Smith's on the corner; shelves of jars on the side wall of Cooke's; candles at Domus, colored paper; a book for Rudy; hair ribbons, feeling of material richness of a town, feeling of winter and Christmas.

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When I look at the penciled passage [above] I see that the language is brittle, the form is hollow, and the ideas are without signification. I have not grown or understood for a long time - I wonder whether I can continue very much longer on the momentum of the one year's fury and beauty, under the pink eaves in Sexsmith's brown house.

Nights in bed with Greg are full of a new comfortable tenderness but the painful wonder of summer's slight touching with Frank had more vitality. Moments exist in long plastic series, indistinguishable, where they were once sharply separate mosaic splinters - moments now are willingly and wearily forgotten, but the minutes of fourteen's Christmas were hoarded. Visual form hasn't changed but I see less and feel less and tho' I work more skillfully with what I am, there is little to work with. Strange wonderful time between baby borrowed fairytales and those fairytales conceptualized - and that I understand this seems to push me even further from the richness of direct response. I write little because I have little to write and not the heart or the spirit or the insincerity to write what does not exist. Not now - no return to borrowed fairytales like voluptuous women in black lace and crimson roses but the immobile moonlight and shadow of that cold night, the dirt road going up the hills with its two tracks shining dimly, the shadows in the bush to the side of the road, the small hill beside the garden where there were stones buried in the dirt, the hawk that swooped over with only the sound of wind and a blurred shadow, my longing for a body at that moment vaporized to phantasy of a meeting on the culvert, words wonderfully expressing everything that had never been expressed. Al coming down the hill to see and understand suddenly and - to feel the bursting tenderness that Greg felt with me on Saturday night, but unarticulated until a sudden chaste shy kiss that was like a star and like a tear on the petal of a rose "like black velvet," like the impetus of a story written on the metal edge of the bed next morning.

When I lay with my head in the crook of his arm and my thigh along the side of his thigh, he said "I lay in this bed for years, as far back as I remember, wanting to be like this."

Professor Walley talks about the movement of the mind in psychic space, especially in Wordsworth and The Solitary Reaper; what happened here was a movement in which the mind came from a mood and the images of the mood to an opposite of the mood and to perhaps the strongest image possible for that new mood, and then circled logically - logical logic and emotional logic - back to the original mood, with a small clarification of life. Could it be a poem?

The stamp is a picture of moonlight and the two-track shining road with a sky whorled as Van Gogh's Starry Night all in blue and lighter blue. It is a poem, too, because of its strong horizontal lines and the curves upward and downward that seem to hold space rather than divide it.

My mind is full of poetry; Lawrence's Blue Gentians among all the stack of loose jawed poems in his collection, is shockingly beautiful, image of the petals of the dark blue flowers blown to flame points by the white draught of sunlight; the flowers on their tall stalks are torches giving off the dark light in Pluto's underworld where Lawrence will be descending - prepared with a flower for a torch - the stairway with Persephone in "slow, sad Michaelmas." Most men do not follow Persephone until December: most do not have tall stiff flowers smoking dark light, light dark before they descend.

The stream of my life in darkness
deathward set

goes on quietly as minute-by-minute Yeats' stream below the tower goes on. Michaelmas, Christmas, Candlemas. I am sad today because work isn't going well (a zero in statistics) and I'm tired: consequently not even Olivia and Greg are real.

Sunday

[undated journal]

After breakfast with Greg: episode in bed this morning: woke thinking of exams, itchy in my skin, and Greg made some remark about my losing twenty pounds - I shriveled up into misery and tried to get out of bed, but he threw me down. I put my feet against the wall and pushed suddenly out so that I flew over him onto the floor. Got dressed and started for the door - he pulled me away, skirmish, and I'd almost gotten to the door knob when he jerked me backwards violently onto the bed and my head crashed against the wall. My eyes were full of tears and I was desolate - he let me go. When I came out of the bathroom he was sitting on the steps looking woebegone. We had breakfast. And I've come home to work.

Several things: psychological need for rigidity. Greg is right: if you think you're fat either do something about it or shut up and accept yourself as fat. If you think you're not doing enough work, either do more or except mediocre marks and shut up.

Distressfulness of self image vulnerabilities. The very subtle and intense effects of any threat. A chink to be repaired.

To a large extent I have stopped thinking of myself as self made, and I rationalize that it is because I'm socialized, but the excuse isn't good enough.

Being socialized - accepting the relevance of someone else's opinion of yourself - is even much more a reason for rigidity.

No charts this time, no signed resolves, just an orange peel, which doesn't mean a list of projects: only one project: acceptance of the illusion of freedom to become. There's something on G's wall that says "The price we pay for honesty is constant self-evaluation."

- Greg is real, good, solid: I'm glad with what I find in him.

December 17

Not always. It is unkind to say to him, "I'm lonely," because what it means is "You're not enough." He isn't enough and there are times when I don't want his rough neck or his ears or his rather ugly profile or his smell or even his large affectionate body. Yet, when the light shines into his eyes at an angle, the color is like the water of the sea at Patras with lines of light cast on the bottom, flickers of yellow-green, a diffused rim of lilac around the pupils. Mouth sometimes petulant but always kind. I fluctuate with him, sometimes I'm moved by his lack of judgmental pettiness and his warmth: last Thursday night after we had made love we lay naked together with our arms around each other and were full of joy in each other, "I'm pleased with you." Relationships weigh heavily; I'm sometimes bored with his jazz, bored with his affection, bored with his amorphous acceptance of me. Tonight I don't like him and I've stayed home to read Bitter Lemons - Olivia is reading Esprit de Corps sent by Bill this morning.

In the afternoon Rasheed was here looking very thin, with his face looking hollower than ever under his long sparse tufts of black hair. He's warm and didn't seem to need his old bluster: Cathy's baby is to be born on the 27th. "I love her in a different way; I guess a better way. I don't think you ever do stop loving anyone" he said - strange for Rasheed to talk about loving. But I remember the letter he wrote me from the train - 32 pages long, drunken, full of the agony of loneliness, confronted by the dawn-break spruce of northern Ontario.

I still love Rasheed too, as I never will love Greg. Rasheed lives with his teeth barred, and I love his violence and his gentleness. (His gentleness after all the fighting that spring when he would say "Then why don't you come?") He may be a crafty compassionate old man someday. In a way, I want him. A lot of women do. He has a vitality that sweeps him far past the need for objectivity and existential good faith; we love him even as we know he is manipulating us. Mother does too - she wrote him about how she loves him and misses him, and how she misses her girls: "With Ellie, I blame her more than I do you, but with Judy I hold you responsible for violating our hospitality."

Rasheed will run scot-free all his life because life is so important to him and we forgive anyone who gives it so much importance for himself. Talking about the baby and Cathy and himself and the possibility of his mother dying of cancer, he said "Everybody intellectualizes and gives you advice and a lot of objective nonsense, but when it is your life that you have to pattern, none of it is worth a fucking damn and you are alone." Any child who was his child would be lucky - he will love it insanely, he'd die for it, marry for it - it will be beautiful - black eyes I suppose, as bewildered and furry as his when he takes off his glasses for a minute, a boy I hope, a beautiful child! Trinidadian, a dancer as spontaneous and expert, knowing-hipped as Rasheed dancing on the gravel pile. As generous and deceptive.

The hand over the side of the bed in the dark, holding a cigarette lightly in the long fingers.

Furies of jealousy, furies of incomprehension, tenderness as to a child, beside the oven on the kitchen floor, furies of reassurance and finally furies of tenderness. Frank, Rasheed, Jerry, Jean-Jacques - Greg makes me impatient! He is my warm hearth and I long for the wet bed of bushes in a corner of the Bulgarian orchard; he's my wine and peanuts when I long for Greek bread torn in chunks! And he is the low bed with the blue blanket, the light on the wall on Sunday morning, Rouault's Jeanne d'Arc hanging crooked on one tack now; hard tall body, hands transformed on contact with my body to something wonderful as light; him sobbing with his orgasm because I have pleased him so intensely and both of us full of a devouring affection for each other as we lie quiet together, friends.

Christmas holidays have begun, I'm lonely for snowy dawns of the Peace River Country, I'm terribly lonely for somebody. Maybe for the home-house with the white door and a wreath above the knocker, the mirror in the hall, the candles and flowers, the grey-haired mother and the pipe-smoking father from the Good Housekeeping fiction I loved when I was ten; and the handsome curly-haired young man standing at the door in his topcoat, a betrothed with whom I am about to begin a thrilling, ordered, careful, stylized life in another white-doored house where I would have an eleven year old freckled boy and a five year old Markie boy, and an intense crop-haired teenage girl in a miniskirt I suppose, coming home from college when the eleven year old boy is a football-playing drama club actor in his senior year in high school, and she has a handsome humorous young man whom I beam up at and adore. Strange fragments of dreams. The ten year old me in love with everything beautiful and careful couldn't have synthesized Rasheed, and Mitchell swearing in the rain outside Firenze, or Greg's blue-blanketed bed either for that matter. Certainly not the cold dawn in Istanbul with my bluejeans drying beside a roaring fire and the little Turkish student begging me to let him sleep with me, certainly not the night sleeping under the hedge at the hostel in Munich cowering when the young boys prowled about the grounds, certainly not the terror of Jean-Jacques changing day by day and the stupidity of Ferdinand's pleas not to leave him. I'm still in love with graciousness and I can't have it; I give it up for roads and chance and faces in youth hostels and the "two companions, loneliness and time, without whom no journey can yield us anything." How is Peter, Barberousse? Isabelle and Henry and the baby? How will Rasheed always be? Jerry?

I want both - I long for the white-doored home with intense loneliness, where all is arranged and perfect and warm and controlled. But I grind my teeth for summer and woods and tins of sardines and the red cap! My life will fall between the two like a coin into a crack. Swiftly!

I want to write a letter - but to whom shall I write it?

Peter cat is asleep against my brass dragon, on the dark table beside the glass vase - luxurious Peter, the stiff wings, the cut glass and the red candle, all on the rich brown grain of the table. Yeats on my wall, flamboyant. Maria's happy green-dress girl. George de la Tour's red-dress madonna holding the child on her lap, and Elizabeth shading the light of its head as you would shelter a candle.


part 2


raw forming volume 6: september 1966 - july 1967
work & days: a lifetime journal project