raw forming volume 1 part 1 - 1963 september-october  work & days: a lifetime journal project

[My family saw me off at Sexsmith station on the evening of September 17]

September 18, 1963, 10.05 AM, NAR #2, Dunvegan Yards near Edmonton

Dear Fambily, and anyone else,

The night hasn't been long at all - I've slept about 6-7 hours, and the rest of the time made friends with the crew.

John Culyk is the newsy, a squat Pole who combs his hair sideways to cover his bald top. He lives alone in Edmonton when he isn't on the line - friendly hand-patting man. He comes back for a chat every so often - once he brought a pillow and wouldn't let me pay for it (it was his last) and last time, a chocolate bar. The conductor stayed for a talk too - has a son in university and a pretty wife. The two baggagemen showed me through their three cars and we sat around their pot-bellied stove there for a while; they have a crate containing both a lonesome puppy and a distainful cat. What a howl! On one place on the wall there is a scribbled "Sexsmith" with "La Glace" penciled underneath. This is where plums bound for "E Epps" are stacked when they travel NAR.

For the last hour-odd the conductor, Win Campbell (Baggageman) and a sleepy-eyed gum-chewing Trainman and I have been littering the "Reserved for train personnel" seat with coffee and tall railroading stories to make it a party.

According to Win (he's the lanky fellow you saw when we passed the baggage car) the railway carries corpses, crated, fairly often. It happened once that they were carrying an empty crate. One of the Negro porters was coaxed into the baggage car at about 2 AM - to his horror the 'corpse crate' began to moan, and there was a feeble kicking inside.

He had to be slapped to bring him out of it - frozen with horror, literally. And when he did come out of it (sez the conductor with a reminiscent chuckle) "the door wasn't wide enough for him."

Another Negro porter reacted differently. "Win Campbell," he said, "You jes' come out. I knows you's in theh!"

More stories: a baby born in the baggage car with porters scurrying for towels and newspaper. Six kittens born in the same place. A "quiet man" who suddenly jumped train and ran away. (Found later hanged in a barn.)

Evidently the RCMP once shipped a dog to another detachment. It was crated, in the baggage car. At one of the stops Win noticed very suddenly that the crate was empty and the dog running about on the platform. A mad chase over the fields recaptured the dog and recrated him. The RCMP, though, was ungrateful: they sent a diatribe complaining bitterly of the "mongrel" they had been sent. Win had recaptured the wrong dog!

And then there was another story. A woman psychiatric patient was being sent to Edmonton with her keeper. The two ladies bought a sleeper ticket. But when they were pyjamaed and ready for bed the woman approached the conductor, tapping him on the shoulder. "You can't fool me, oh no," she said slyly. "I'm not getting into bed with that old man."

"What old man?" the conductor protested.

"Him!"

"But that isn't an old man. That's your companion. That's a woman."

"Ah you can't fool me, I know!"

Edmonton depot

Since arriving at 10:30 this morning I've been having swell fun people-watching. My Super Continental #2 leaves at 3 PM - that is in an hour. A very nice old man befriended me here, a telegraph operator since he was thirteen - Fred Pendle. He and I watched the 12:30 arrivals from the east flood in, enjoying the smoochings and fuss. "It's a good thing, affection" was his comment. When he left we played relatives: shook hands and wished each other bon voyage. Rather warming! Hey, what is supposed to be so awful about people, hmmm?

Now back to watch-birding -

September 19, Thursday 7:45 AM nearing Winnipeg - Super Continental #2, eastbound

The woman in the seat ahead of me, petite pretty Mrs Fahrall who is 78, comes from the Devon area in England, a section described in that last National Geographic. She has had a life! She came to Canada a long time ago to marry a man her brother had brought home from boarding school when she was eleven. Their homestead was next door to the home of Chief Poundmaker (Paul will probably know who he was - I do not) and she was good friends with the Indians. ("They were grand people, so kind to me" was her comment.) She is passionately fond of the royal family and speaks of Elizabeth's expected child in ecstatic whispers. A dear!

Mrs Fahrall has just been leaning across the back of the seat with her chin in her hands like a very pretty ten year old, telling me about the Manitoba lake country. She remembers very well when the Crees would gather there to pick blueberries. They would finish the picking season with a grand powwow around a campfire - drums and dancing all night.

The freight trains passing westbound have carried a flashing display of new cars - the many colored flanks of Impalas, Malibus, Parisiennes, and others. Sleek and svelte.

The friendly trainman here has promised me a ride in the engine but inspectors on the train have frustrated that until now - but high hopes.

Back to Mrs Fahrall again - her Indian nickname was "Little Nitchimus," a good name for a Queen's frosh too because it means "Greenhorn."

We are rolling through a vast flat prairie approaching Winnipeg - lovely flat fields. They seem already harvested, but the flax fields are still uncut.

To whom but family would anyone dare scribble such an unmannerly letter on old sheets of scrap?

Afternoon. With the borrowed pen of a Montreal waiter named Claude, je recommencer. (Posez à Judy la question de qu'est-ce que c'est que je dire.) We have been reciprocating a teaching session, English-French. What fun!

We are rolling through north Ontario just beyond Lake of the Woods. It's lovely! Lake after lake in round-rocked hollows, flashes of gold-leaved alder and birch among the jackpines, canoes and cabins hidden in the trees, red-leaved autumn underbrush. I'm raving! Lumbermen and railroaders wave to us as we pass. Tiers of rock rise beside the track like seats of an amphitheatre, covered with glowing green-grey moss.

For dinner I had a $2.10 steak - might as well, for my all inclusive special ticket covers all meals and I eat as much as I like.

Phoned Blocks in Winnipeg. Mrs gave me Mr's school phone number but when I got the school he was already in class and I couldn't get him, but left a number. I didn't find either Aunty Lou's or Uncle Bernie's phone though, so didn't stay there because I didn't want to be hung up high'n dry. I'm glad I didn't, for the new crew that stepped on in Winnipeg is French-Canadian and great fun. Another Claude who looks like Gilles has promised to let me help him wash dishes later.

Some of the crew are dead-heading, ie they are riding to Montreal off duty as passengers - therefore a bit of booze. They remind me of the cowboy in Edmonton who blinked his blue eyes at me and demanded to know whether it was Wednesday or Thursday - a 'week off' is confusing. And expensive! He says he 'blew' $280 with no trouble. One week!

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Whee! I "am" (as the French would say) just returned from several glorious discussions - I found three girls going to Queen's! Two other frosh: Margaret, a pert pretty doctor's daughter who is a biology maniac, and Judy - a blond sophisticate who intends to become a nuclear physics researchist. They are both in Ban Righ too (Ban Ree is the pronunciation). There is one senior too; lovely! Moira is a pert creature too, naturally pretty, enormously intelligent. She began at Queen's with a Provincial Scholarship from Saskatchewan. She looks like Rita Egan, almost exactly. Here is the beginning of a traditional frosh crush on the gorgeous senior.

Whee! We arrive tomorrow 6:45. I won't stop off anywhere because these kids think they can get into the dorm tomorrow - we'll have a head start on the others then. I am excited! Judy, wouldn't you be?

Sept 20 Kingston, Friday nite, 49 Ban Righ Hall

I am arrive', as Claude would say, but should go back to the train trip for the letter so that is all properly taken care of. Queen's issue in the next installment.

After yesterday's note we picked up three Queen's boys and a would-be politician commerce grad. As a result we talked and looked at yearbooks and ate the lunches their anxious mothers had packed until late. Then a long non-sleeping night.

But in the morning - the Muskoka area of north Ontario. It really is lovely, especially now. There is no soil as such, only brutal grey or black rock, rounded into ages-old curves. Among the black boulders and outcroppings are many slender trees, now scarlet and yellow against the dramatic rock background. A river with mist hanging above it in wisps; beaver leaving silent V's in their wake as they swim across; ducks, sky.

I was up at 5:30 and watched morning come from the club car. Claude was already up too, and sang a very haunting French song for me. (He sings in Montreal, as a singing waiter, or a nightclub entertainer. He has the usually reedy-sounding French voice, but it is more attractive than most.)

And then I had coffee in Hornepayne with the commerce grad and a huge Negro porter called "Little Hughie." Hugh has the oddest freckles: black, and slightly raised like specks of tar fallen from a ladder onto his face.

Breakfast (buckwheat cakes with maple syrup) in the dining car with yellow asters on the table, linen napkins, discussion over coffee.

Toronto at 3 PM. As usual I saw no more than the underground depot - this is three times I've been in Toronto, yet I've never seen it!

The Kingston train was full of U students. By today I was com-plete-ly wilted - hair like witch whiskers from the hairspray that's kept it in order for, ... how many? days; purple-pouched eyes, a constant sniffle from a Monsterian cold, runny nylons, flat shoes. This of course made me feel like a hideous species of lizard creeping feebly into the society of hummingbirds. Howevah ...

Kingston is Oh Oh Oh! Called the "Limestone City," it has endless rows of medieval looking buildings (many cathedrals), most of them ivy colored, and many enormous maples. I'm ecstatic.

But tired. Tomorrow -

September 21, Saturday afternoon, Ban Righ Hall

I'll begin your orientation here by telling you about Ban Righ. How to describe it to you! When we drove up grandly to a side door in the taxi last night, ie after dark, the street lights under the maples along University Avenue made them seem to glow of themselves, scarlet and orange. Ban Righ rose above the lawn and trees like a medieval castle in grey limestone with narrow windows (still dark for the most part), large oak doors, and slathers of ivy spread over the walls to the very top. Inside was a very little old lady at a desk, a common room with a fireplace and a Degas print, more sitting rooms, a vast, echoing cafeteria, and a 'normous bullitan board full of regulations and notices of extra-curricular activities.

My room is on the top floor, a floor with only about twelve inhabitants (which makes these twelve closer) and one telephone, one ironing room, one very large bathroom and a dimmly lit carpeted hallway.

The room itself is painted a stark cloister white, with oldish brown furniture, a brown-doored closet, a desk with a goose lamp and a very good desk chair, a large antique looking chair jest for settin', and a tall narrow bookcase. Because it is so like a nun's cell, it will be grand to rip into it and make it Ellie, Class of '67.

My window has the dorm's prize view, a wide-angle shot of University Avenue and the many-acre park beyond it. I am nearly above the front door, and so can watch all comings and goings. Last night a group of Med frosh who were feeling alcoholicly high sang "Good night Ladies" to us as they passed, and this morning the entire freshman Medical class was put through their paces, ridiculous as they are, directly in front of my window. They caught sight of my yellow night cap and focused camera peering down at them, and on the barked order of a tyrant sophomore, the entire line in their frosh tams and initiation getup waved to me.

Last night another girl who was rattling around on second floor went for a walk with me. Two blocks took us to the lake, very dark, very quiet and stealthy on the rocks below us. We can see the lights on the other side from here because the lake has narrowed to form the "Thousand Islands" entrance to the St Lawrence River [actually it was an island]. The streets bordering the lake walk are grassed and flowered to form a long strip of park which I can imagine would be a very popular lovers' lane. The leaves are indescribably beautiful.

Now I smell supper, and as I've eaten nothing but one chocolate candy since yesterday's CNR dinner, I believe I'll go make use of some of the enormous board and room charges I'm paying. $590.00. Good news, one of the girls says that Queen's doesn't like to start things and not finish them. Hence, according to her, scholarship students are usually given another bursary or two if they run short.

September 22

Think you deserve a letter even on Sunday? You'll want to know, did I go to church? Of course! All the innocent little frosh were bundled up into groups of about a dozen girls with what is called a vig, and shepherded away to Grant Hall, Queen's auditorium, for a special interdenominational service featuring the Queen's chaplain.

A beautifully sunny morning, all the coeds sleek and pretty in their church clothes, hats too! Evidently the church custom here in the east is always to wear hats - I'll have to get one. Elegant!

The service was very United Church, dignified and rather warm. The scripture reading was I Corinthians 13, a good omen I thought for that passage has been my favorite for a long time. The chaplain spoke on the "Validity of Religious Experience," and used as main points the arguments that something we have not experienced is not necessarily invalid, just as aesthetic enjoyment of classical music is not invalid just because many do not appreciate it, and that religious experience requires preparation. The last point was that religious experience would be more valuable and real (valid) if we tested it rather than merely speculating. - Do you approve? I found him a very good and honest speaker, so enjoyed the sermon.

After dinner Bob (one of the boys from the train) phoned and asked whether I'd like to stroll about and explore a bit with him so I did - now, have you pricked up anxious ears, Mother? This one is nothing to worry about! Bob is a little brother type who likes to discuss philosophy. He's fairly short, blond, blue-eyed, innocent looking, with a slash across his nose that hasn't quite healed yet, I think from a lumbering accident. He isn't a Toronto-and-suburb-ite either, but a lumber-woodsman from northern Ontario, taking honours science.

We are beginning to know the people on our floor, and have noticed some omniscient being behind the placement of rooms - for instance, two phys ed girls are together, and immediately next door to me is a girl who not only looks like me (almost identical to Aunt Lily) but is also here on scholarship (also taking languages) and also from a small town high school. We discovered each other last night and shall be friends - Bonnie, from near Toronto, majoring in French and Latin. Petite, brunette, a piquant look like Auntie's, glasses. Fairly friendly personality, but a chameleon like me - quiet when with superior people, but outgoing with peers or inferiors. I'll save character sketches of the others for later letters. By the way, could you file these letters for me in a ring binder or something? I haven't time to duplicate it all for my journal so will depend on this as a record, hence the holes on the sides. This has been none too chatty, but it is all I can manage to keep up on the informational stuff - we can chat later when less is happening.

Another thing that is interesting was the vig meeting. Now, at last, I can explain these vidges! The word is an abbreviation of 'vigilante', a creature who watches over other creatures I presume. In our case, a number of girls are assigned to a second year student who is responsible for getting them to the right places in time and keeping them from rebellion during initiation.

At the meeting, where all the girl frosh and their vigs met in Dunning Hall, we were welcomed, warned, taught the four-odd school songs and yells, browbeaten about initiation and inspired by a talk by our dean, Mrs Bryce. She is a tremendous person. I'll rave about her later when I have more time.

After all the vig meetings I sat up in my nearly-attic room and watched the student body passing underneath. A scattering of Med students sat on the lawn just across in the park, some of them with guitars and ukes, singing folk music crosslegged. All the frosh in their frosh tams strolling about making friends. Oh, you'll want to hear about the tams - they are Scottish curling tams, navy blue with a red-blue-and-gold plaid. Those, incidentally, are the Queen's colors. Arts - red; Science and Engineers - yellow; Medicine - blue.

On the tour of the campus this afternoon with Bob, we wandered into the Queen's radio studio, browsed in their thousands of records, teased a young professor who is a radio fiend and devotes much time to the station, stared, listened.

My phone number, by the way is 482, just in case.

[sketch plan of Ban Righ floor 3]

September 23

The Monday of our first whole week as freshmen. Today has been relatively slow, but there is enough and more for today's page to you - I feel almost as tho I should send you a slice of every day so that you can be here with me. Bonnie, next door, feels the same way about her parents who brought her on Saturday and were both wistful and enchanted when they saw the campus. I wish you could see it.

Being a frosh was emotionally grinding until I decided to go at my own pace and no faster, skipping uncomfortable situations like the banquet tonight to take a long walk around the nearby residential area and sit on a heap of sun-bleached boulders along the lakewalk to make some rules for myself and internally organize a bit - this seems important. The rules were about all sorts of things - food, clothes, social situations, emotions, attitudes, money .

Which remind me that this morning I picked up my cheque, $1000 dollars, and stowed it in the bank, a brand-new chequing account at the Bank of Commerce.

Judy, you'll be interested to know that instead of the conservative brown flats I had intended to get, I weakened to the enormous extent of buying a pair of red ones, a sketch of which appears below, she said grandly.

Initiation begins tomorrow, but I'll save the description of that. If we are rebellious, and the malicious (not really) sophs encourage us to be, we are given 'charge slips' which like supermarket stamps are redeemable for certain 'rewards' come Friday and the kangaroo court.

I drifted through the library on a solitary tour this afternoon. What a heaven! The music library was the first stop, a large room eyebrow-full of books about musicians, country music, opera, scores of operettas, librettos, books by and about the maestros, books on ballet and modern dance choreography, national folk music - words and melody - and RECORDS! Everything, everything. Also a cello, a grand piano, and a phonograph.

I see that this economical typing-on-the-back idea is not a very good one so will start on a new page -

There was a periodicals room on the next floor, ringed by shelves containing all the newest and most important periodicals - hurrah, Judy, I can keep on reading the New York Times book review section without buying it myself.

The top floor was entirely taken up by the reading/reference rooms, a huge sprawling one for the lowly undergrads, and a closety exclusive one for graduate students.

Sept 24 Tuesday

Last night's note was interrupted by a bridge lesson by three second year students who weren't at the banquet either. As we were on the third round voices were heard under the window four floors down, and when we rushed to the window we saw half the campus strolling along the dark street behind a half-dozen seniors with guitars, scuffing through the leaves, singing enthusiastically, meeting fellows (or girls) by 'accidentally' bumping into them in the crowd. After we scurried away to join the pied pipers, I met a few fellows myself! An engineer whom I liked because he laughed at all my jokes, a Richard Parlee looking frosh who knows an enormous amount about music and who harmonizes very inventively, a shy blunderer named Chris who wants to become an actuary and make lots of money. An assortment. But I still haven't met any men. You know what I mean.

Initiation this morning. All this fol-de-rol is a bit childish, I think, for university people, but the very disillusioning reality is that many of the people who are here are here for fun and games. One of the loathesome college songs that we're expected to sing finishes this way: "for it's not for the knowledge that we go to college, but to raise hell all the year."

This can't be true for all of us tho, and after classes have begun the sheep will look a little different from the kidlets. Our costumes are now thus:

Odd shoes, different colored kneesox, short skirt or kilt, man's shirt with our name, phone and group number stencilled on the back in Queen's colors, a braid of red-gold-blue holding our mitts around our necks, our frosh tams, and a stuffed animal under our arms.

Out on the outer field early for an idiot scavenger hunt and calesthenics on the cold, cold grass. Interesting - I had breakfast with two Indian nurses in saris, lovely girls with shiny hair.

Our 'vig groups' have been rebelling rather interestingly - hauling our leader off the field bodily, stealing her food, bawling out the school song during meals, refusing orders - but how ridiculous really! I'm waiting for those classes to begin (Thursday) after tomorrow's registration.

Sept 25 Wednesday

Now I know why the cliché "the ordeal of registration' was invented! Billions of lineups with billions of people ahead of you, billions of little white cards that make you write your name until you find yourself in the wrong lineup because you can't remember that "Epp Elfreda (Ellie) Helen" begins with an E. My timetable is as below:

Monday:
9:00 Philosophy 1: Ethics, Logic and Metaphysics
10:00 Psychology 2
2:30 Music 1
 
Tuesday:
10:00 French 2
11:00 English 2a
2:00 oral lab in French
3:30 a tutorial in philosophy once every two weeks

Wednesdays and Fridays are like Mondays, Thursdays and Saturdays like Tuesdays. Now all that is left is paying the fees!

While sitting in the park yesterday afternoon and reading Shaw's Pygmalion I met an interesting soph, a men's vig - Andrew Kennedy-Marshall, a very attractive Tony-Perkins-looking Scot with a well-enunciated radio-announcer voice. We hashed the usual philosophy-psychology-what-are-we-here-for-and-what-makes-us-tick questions and had coffee in the Students Union cafeteria where beardy men and tangly-haired girls were hashing the same things, and I enjoyed it! Still haven't met any men tho.

Last night the science frosh had a party, and as a result were mildly 'looped' by eleven o'clock - a straggle of them with guitars serenaded nearly underneath my window, very badly. A larger straggle set off fireworks and threw other stragglers into the water.

Oh these leaves! These trees! These yellows and reds and tans and blacks and greens! These stone towers and casement windows and awesome entrance halls! And classes tomorrow too! And red shoes! And the cleaning lady who sweeps my floor and tugs my rug straight every morning!

And yesterday there was Hughie: ten years old, pudgy, back peddling on a rusty old bike with a paper bag in his fist. "Hey, do you want to buy a tassel?" he asked. And then the story came out! He has spent the afternoon snatching pompoms from the tams of unwary freshmen, and was now selling them for a quarter - 250% profit! When I suggested that he go into commerce when he was old enough for Queen's he was all bland assurance. "Yeah, I'm a pretty sharp cookie."

Sept 26, Thursday.

Classes are all sorted out and begun, books and books and books bought, professors scrutinized. The rampant question is "How'd you make out?" My answer is a little groan, mainly because of the French. It appears that Ontario people have five years of it, in contrast to my two (if one could call correspondence and Ray adequate years). My crystal ball shows midnight lights burning behind a certain set of blue curtains on the top floor of Ban Righ.

English looks promising. Mr Robertson is a tall masculine middle-aged, with a thick crop of black hair, a long, lean chin, and a pleasantly bookish air about him. Our course begins with Chaucer, The Canterbury Tales.

But that was classes this morning! Now study - freshettes get two two-thirty late leaves a week, har. I won't need 'em - the library is only open until eleven.

27, Friday

Philosophy and psychology this morning. The phil class is enormous, taking up half of an auditorium and half of the arts and science faculties' first year student body, as philosophy, one course, is compulsory. We begin with a study of ethics, the definition of right and wrong, of duty, of morality. According to Dean Dunnings who teaches the course, it is not to give us new values or morals, but to teach us to examine definitions of the terms we use, to examine our beliefs, to distinguish between true knowing and mere believing, and so on. I think I shall enjoy the course.

And the psychology course! We have an exceptionally good professor, Mr Campbell, whose Scottish accent is just light enough and educated enough to be charming. The cadence of his speech is particularly interesting, being a fluctuation from very light to sudden emphasis. Also, he strides about continually, almost like a cat tho, very quietly. This is an example of the way he talks:

"The TEXTS you will need (step) are LISTED on the sheet (step) I handed you in the beginning of the class (turn, step) and I should LIKE you to READ them in the ORDER I've indicated (step) BEGINNING with the book (step) by ROSS." This gives his speech a headlong, breathless quality that is difficult to ignore, and because of the intervals between emphasized words are so quiet, he keeps the full attention of us all. So far.

Something interesting on my program tonight is the year's beginning welcome party of International House, an organization for overseas students and Canadians who are interested in these overseas people. They maintain a house accommodating several students, and organize social/intellectual events to help foreign students meet the rest of us, and vice versa. I am planning to join that as well as the Interfaculty Choir.

Hey, you'll never believe it, folks, but I have occasional moments of HOMESICKNESS.

The meals are wonderful - fruit juice for every meal, milk either whole or skim, three or four choices of dessert, two or three choices of main course, rolls, fresh fruit for breakfast, fancy pastry on Sundays, cheese on the sideboard for dinner which is our fairly formal evening meal. But they are so distressingly regular that I'm hungry all the time. Same old story. It keeps the kitchenette coffee pot boiling, which makes for kaffee klatches in one of the girls' rooms with everyone sitting on the floor.

28, Saturday

It was raining last night, the first time since we have been at Kingston, a hard warm rain that flattened all the leaves onto the sidewalk so that they looked like patterns on linoleum, exhilerating rain. And a good prelude to the party at International House. IH is both an organization (to which I belong now) and a building. The latter is an old-fashioned brick house with the standard (in Kingston) front verandah and narrow windows. Inside were Jamaicans, Nigerians, Sierra Leonians, Pakistanis, real Indians, Chinese from Hong Kong and from Trinidad, Englishers, Germans, and four Albertans, strangers too! Ahmed from Pakistan explained Mohammedanism to me, Keith from Kingston explained Christianity. "X" from India and Simon from Singapore told me what they missed most here - food - and what they found most different - the easy intermingling of the sexes. Another Pakistani told me about the international work he is doing as an entomologist researcher, finding weeds and insect pests which both countries, Canada and Pakistan, are plagued by to varying extents. If weed a is common to Canada, for instance, but relatively well controlled by natural factors in Pakistan, the researchers will experiment to find the natural enemies, either insect or disease, which can safely be transferred to Canada to control a there. This is happening on both sides of the ocean.

The two Germans and three English 'chaps' - Peter, Tim, and effervescent Jim - and I washed up coffee cups in the wee kitchen, singing old English songs like "Poor Cock Robin" and another about what will happen if some lovestruck fool goes out onto the damp moor at night without a cap on, in amazingly good harmony.

Wolfgang - another frosh, nicer than most, who claimed on his nametag to be German tho he's been here six years, walked me home - altogether a very good evening. Doesn't it all sound great? First hand information on why Pakistan will never become Communist and India will (difference of religion) and the Hong Kong social structure and the changes in Asia as conversation pieces rather than the latest exploits of the Golden Gaels (our football team) or what boy who nabbed last night.

This is during 'noisy hours', the time between twelve and one-thirty, five and six-thirty, ten and eleven when radios, typing, banjos, phonos, and chatter are not verboten. Altogether, the study situation is quite good especially as our floor is so small (under one half the usual size) and as we can't hear thumping over our heads. No one up there but the pigeons.

29, Sunday

A stormy, windy, rainy, tempermental day in Kingston. Rather a day for nostalgia, especially after writing seven letters and three postcards and thinking of this summer. Wrote Grandma and Grandpa, both sets. Aren't you pleased? No, really, this summer was awfully good for getting to know them as people and as part of this phenomenon called 'family'.

Down the hall a knot of girls are sitting on the carpet around a banjo and singing sad ballads. As if we aren't a little grey around the heart already - but they sound actually quite nice.

Some mundanities: Judy could you send me a money order for what is in your account that belongs in mine please? I shall probably need it as I'm a little low and should have some dental work done and take out some hospital insurance in case. And when/if you send my blouses do you suppose you could throw in one of the Mexican pottery jugs - I need a pencil stand and toe-cover-holder. How did the pictures turn out? I want copies please if they aren't too bad, and even if they are.

I've been having a peculiar sensation of standing at the edge of something, whether of a precipice or of a magic door I don't know.

Have you heard about my Music 1 class yet? It is held in the living-room-like atmosphere of the library music room, and to make it seem even more of a social afternoon, there are only about thirteen of us, four fellows and nine girls. Our professor is a tall fairly old Britisher with a husky low voice, potentially warm, and a face that much resembles Harold Macmillan's. I know I'm going to like him a great deal. What he proposes to do in the class is to listen and listen and listen to music until we get some glimmer of an 'understanding' (which is not an understanding of form at all) of the music. Also we want to look at the evolution of music a bit, and the structure of the various types and variations. Our professor, whose name I don't know yet, spent most of the first class sitting in an armchair in front of us, speaking very informally. Before he began he smiled a wisp-smile and said "Now don't take notes please: this isn't going to be note-worthy." Isn't he nice?

From somewhere in Kingston cathedral bells are tolling in the rain, both eerie and moving. Kingston has the most beautiful churches I've seen, so many of them, set back on huge lawns, made of the traditional grey stone, most of them with tall Gothic towers rather than spires. On a Sunday morning all the bells ring out across campus: it's breath-taking.

Spose this could be mailed tomorrow to keep it from plugging the mails - do write!

Monday night 12:13 a.m.

Dear Mom -

From Queen's to an extramural student who is here by proxy -

Now that all the initiation nonsense is done with, books! I think of you often, knowing how well you would like to be immersed in the bookish atmosphere that is so common here, a few inches under the surface football and partying. I do know, though, that you will be plowing ahead through your high school - and we the family do admire you for your tenacity.

I hope you will write when you have a bit of weltschmertz to get off your chest: it won't bother me unfairly to listen because here I'm relatively free from it myself and would like to share yours - fair enough?

How am I really? A little lonesome so far: making friends too quickly is not appealing or a good idea. In the meanwhile, I miss Frank rather acutely at times, Mr Mann, Peter, the Windrims, the Grandparents even, and Paul, Rudy, Judy, Father, you.

And until I became caught up in the books and classes I was a little lost, a little desolate, a little rootless. But these things - philosophy, psychology, music, English - are home.

It is very late.

Tuesday October 1

It is called Dinner with the Dean. It is something which happens to every freshman at least twice in the first year at Queen's. It is a very awesome thing, remembered with trepidation, anticipated qualmingly.

Hi! That was just me having some fun with last night's semi-ordeal. Do you want to hear what really happened?

Our floor, together with several other girls was formally invited to eat our evening meal (at dinner) at the Dean's table. This is Mrs Bryce's way of learning to know all of the new 'little ones,' and is a tradition with all the rite and ceremony of a coronation.

One first puts on one's very best dress and one's highest sophisticatedest heels and one's most expensivest jewellery, and then one marches tremblingly (if it is possible to march tremblingly - it must be) downstairs to the Dean's office where one is scrutinized and named. Evidently Mrs Bryce, who is the paradoxical combination of efficiency and feminine gracefulness, spends hours before these 'ceremonies' in studying photos of us and attaching the blobs of faces to the corresponding blobs of names.

After she has correctly named us one by one, last names too, and astonished us deeply enough, we trot behind her in straggly pairs to the dining room. The moment she enters, everyone in the dining room rises and stands foolishly with her napkin clutched against her knees to keep it from sliding off entirely. We file into seats somewhere along the semicircular table, with Mrs Bryce at the head and some of us on both sides, both adjacent to and opposite to this formidable female Arthur at her round table.

There is a salad plate beside our places - nothing else. (Salad = half a canned pear on a skimpy sheet of lettice with a tortured mass of whipped cream on top.) Is this all of dinner? We aren't that lucky! Two little maids in white uniform appear carrying bowls of food. The Dean serves out the monsterous slabs of baked ham, then hands the plate (white china with a Queen's crest in gold) to the girl next to her who adds a potato, then to the girl across the table who adds a coblet of corn. Then the plates are passed on down the table until at last we all have one. All this takes ages. During all this time the Dean is making polite chatter to those of us she can conversation-spear without stretching (so to speak), being careful to talk to each only a very short time and then going on to another one.

Finally she picks up her fork and begins on the ham. All down the row heads swivel to see which fork it is that she has picked up and then swivel back, all together, to contemplate their own row of forks. Between main course and dessert there is a recuperatory pause of about fifteen minutes - more ceremonial chatter - while the maids clear plates away and bring out the dessert. Voila! Small banana splits. Even the Dean lights up.

Eventually, eventually, she rises, motions to us, and leads us out. Then, at the door of her office, she shakes our hands in turn, being careful to mention our names to prove that she can do it again, and says a gracious "I was so pleased with the little talk I had with you, good night" accompanied by a very regal touch of a surprisingly soft hand as we pass toward the stairs.

Oct 2

Surely this must be Wednesday, yes it is.

Several things to be caught up on: first a small or rather fairly large jubilation because for the first time in Ban Righ - two weeks since Sexsmith station! - there was a fairly decent non-bill letter in my cubbyhole downstairs. Do write again.

At the moment there is a band rehearsal going on in the park grounds across from my window - the timpani are helping me in the jubilee. It seems that for a universitier much of the spelling in these edition-after-editions is not quite all it should be, but the thing is: 'hem - that when I'm typing it takes too much time and trouble to erase things that shouldn't be left for posterity. I'm racing a noisy-hours deadline, you see, for the woodpeckery clicking of a typwriter is (there I go again! Did you catch it?) not quiet-hoursy enough for other times.

Last night was oooooo. It was the first Interfaculty Choir rehearsal, for one thing. We meet in the Music House, another ramshackly brick 'ediface' (no other word is suitable) there should be a period at the end of that but I forgot it. Anyway, the wonderful Dr George who is the warm Macmillan looking music professor I mentioned before, is our director and accompanist. Last night's beginnings were a long Irish ballad in semi-cantata form called "Praudrig [Phaudrig] Crohoore," and a tender Elizabethan hymn with breath-taking harmonies. But what I was aching for all evening was a real tenor - I thought very wistfully of Mr Mann and Pierre singing down the hallways at school last year. But we had not one reasonable tenor and not one better than reasonable bass. But the songs themselves carried the rehearsal and I walked out afterwards into the witchy first night of October in a bit of a witchy rapture. A night! Absolutely empty sky very far away and pale, yellow trees glowing in the streetlamp light, a luminosity around the Grant Hall belltower that hinted of a moon behind it, dry leaves swirling and skipping with only the smallest rasp of a sound when they touch the sidewalk, a pretty blond girl in a collegiate trench coat and sneakers scuffing along ahead of me.

And you must meet Ferguson - an abrupt change of topic this is, but you will be able to detect an 'autumn' tone in it too. Ferguson is in the fourth year of a rather wandering general course here, taking two politics courses and an advanced Spanish course with two heavy histories as well. The library and the students' union know him well: he has a pass card to the library stacks and can become lost in them (they are vast) whenever he likes. What is notable about Ferguson, though, is not his querying intellect or his bookwormy habits, but his age: he got his first degree from Queen's thirty-four years ago. Now he is continually bumping into undergrads and even graduate students who are children of his university days colleagues.

He looks as amazing as he is too: tall, stooped, with a nosy neck-forward posture that gives him a prying air; hairy and scraggly, with odd fuzzy long whiskers growing all around his neck and the top of his head always thatched-looking from pushing his fingers through it.

A few other headlines: for my compulsory phys ed I am taking ARCHERY! And next Friday night I'm to babysit for the head of the psychiatry department - six children in a huge old house. Really a mad situation, hmmm? Hope they turn out as well as the Windrims.

3, Thursday

It seems that the problem of what to do for the Christmas holidays will not be especially troublesome. One of the girls on the floor, a very appealing little English girl from Toronto, has already invited me, so if I can manage the trainfare (probably about ten dollars return) I would like to spend at least a weekend there, just as you would like me to bring people home for weekends if it were possible. The residence closes up tightly, so I'll be evicted at any rate. Going to New York would be great if I could manage it. Perhaps if I can scrape up a few more bursaries (I owe $200 on residence fees not due until January and unaccounted for) baby-sitting money can go for that. Or a job, or a bright suggestion from Mrs Bryce who wants to talk to me about it later.

Judy please send that money.

Last night very little was accomplished in the way of homework. First was the rousing band practice, then an impromptu happy-jazz concert by strolling bandsmen on their way home, freelancing off-beat harmonies and stopping in the middle of the street sometimes to bay a high note into the sky. Moonlight and blowing leaves again. Then Olivia, the English girl (and the perfect image of a curly-haired tomboy from the English-schoolgirl stories) came in to talk for a while because she was lonesome, worried, uncertain of why she's here, loose-ended and wistful - which is the state of frosh ennui that I got rid of (like the flu) last week. Anyway it was nice to pick up the role of confidante, feels like being home with myself again.

In English Prof Robertson is guiding a study of Chaucer's The Parliament of Fouyles which was written in the German-sounding Middle English of 1383. It is a poem, complex, very allegorical, about love, which was the main topic of conversation in the contemporary court. But I mot gon to rede some bokis - anon!

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Later on the same day. I have just come in smelling deliciously of smoke and full of coffee. What happened was that while studying French in the little languages study room in the library, half hidden by the enormous dictionary I was using, one of my International House friends dropped in to study some French too, and after hours of sitting wordlessly across the table he said "Voulez-vous avoir une petite tasse de café?" so we wandered down to the Union coffee house and sat among all the discussers discussing for a while. The friend was Jim, an especially appealing twenty-six year old Britisher who sings "Cock Robin" with an authentic East London accent. He's medium-sized, wiry, at least superficially debonair with crackling brown eyes and a naughty smile, interested in mountain-climbing, intelligent, witty, easy-mannered, potential friend material. While we were there who should happen by but my friend Wolfgang and a German friend of his who is just back from a year's study of pre-med in Vienna. Typical old-mannered European: wire-rimmed spectacles too. That was a fine party - our eleven piem (figured that one out?) (it saves the bother of period-ing) curfew is too early.

Are you interested at all in a typical day at Queen's? (I'm writing double today for there'll be no time tomorrow.)

7 ayem: bound out of bed to have a look at the weather, scrub up in the washroom with the few early risers who have eight o'clock classes, make bed and fold up sheet and pillow case and set them outside the door for the cleaning ladies (Thursdays only), leave my cloister-room speckless (altho the cleaning lady, a dear 'little' overweight woman who calls us 'dear' indiscriminatingly, sweeps the floors and picks up after us, I'm disturbingly tidy ... sigh, for the days of shambles), skip downstairs for breakfast (toast, grapefruit juice, an orange, bacon, scrambled eggs), study for an hour in the common room downstairs, go to French class and teem with frustration and ignorance for an hour, scramble to English to beat the professor there, study ten minutes while waiting for him, spend an hour and a half on Chaucer's ribald little jokes - cute, this fourteenth century humour - float to dinner [lunch] in the sunshine and falling leaves (milk, tomato juice, carrot sticks and celery, a fruit salad plate, dessert, cookies, tea, getting-to-know-who-you-are-or-at-least-what-your-name-is conversations), a dash downstairs to check the mail niches, study in library until 2:30, an archery class way over at the stadium, a furious run back to the library to make it in time for the 3:00 music class, studying from 4:30 to 5:30 supper (orange juice, milk, roast beef, squash, peas, cheese, crushed pineapple), back to the library or to music appreciation or to choir, or to IH or babysitting till 10:00 or later, some letter-typing and gab or singing on the stairs, 'ritual of retiring,' zzzz.

Saturday October 5

Today was an important day for Queen's: the university idolizes football, and today our Gaels routed the Toronto Blues, long-time arch-enemies. I didn't go to the game, but heard it: bellowing commentators, the skirling bagpipes, the two bands, the cheering crowds from both Toronto and Kingston. After the game the campus was overrun by couples on their way to after-game dances and banquets. I turned down a movie date from Bob to do some studying, but am not feeling studious a bit so will tell you about the baby-sitting last night.

When I got to 26 Centre Street, the address I'd been given, I thought I'd been mistaken. It was an enormous Colonial style house in grey stone with three stories, a gothic-pillared front verandah, a royal front lawn, a sports car in the vast garage, and acres of low storage buildings attached to the back of the house. It was the correct address tho', and I soon met the family: nine-months old Eve (born last Christmas Eve), four-year-old Robin, eight-year-old Polly, or Pog, eleven-year-old Billy, and two sparrowy early-teenage daughters - and the maid. The reason they need a sitter even with all these daughters and things is that the daughters have other things to do and are sick of sitting, and that the maid is not terribly intelligent and Mrs Sloane doesn't like to leave the baby with her. Mrs Sloane's dignified old father is also with them. And they entirely fill that enormous house - no empty corners at all.

And how beautifully they fill it - their furniture is a great mish-mash of stark contemporary and beat-up old-fashioned, the floors are all wooden, the ceilings are high, the closets are formidible, the stairs narrow and winding, the windows long and thin, and upstairs are often in the shape of a porthole or cathedral window. In Mr Sloane's study are two walls full of books, about half of them technical: psychiatry texts, and the other half best-sellers. Scattered in every corner are bits of sculpture. Beside the huge home-made stereo set which has speakers in several of the rooms is a mountain of records. A grand piano. Original paintings. [One of these was by their friend Harold Towne.] First-rate prints everywhere, even along the stairways and upstairs.

Their kitchen is much like my idea of a castle scullery - vast, low-ceilinged, papered with large and frenzied pictures crayoned by the neighbourhood children, posters, memos, work the children have brought home from school, cartoon clippings. Baskets of fruit, a Siamese cat, a Scotch terrier, a mongrel kitten, cook books, a dishwasher, heaps of things the kids have dragged in, toys, baby carriages, the kids themselves ... All that is needed is a long, deep fireplace with a kettle boiling over it instead of the electric range.

Both Mr and Mrs Sloane are very attractive people, about forty but younger-looking, English, rather easy-mannered. He has private patients as well as teaching in the psychiatry department.

At sixty cents an hour, high for baby-sitting, that was three dollars for five hours, until eleven. It will certainly help if I can do this once a week or so.

Went to a funny little old dentist yesterday, but Dr Martin has lost one 'customer.' All the while he was poking about in my mouth he was trembling so much that he had to brace himself against my shoulder - when I saw the 1922 date on his certificate I understood why!

Back to The Scientific Principles of Psychology - Oh, there was a letter from Grandma, rather a nice one, altho she did bring out her "Bleibe fromm und halte dich recht" axiom.

One thing that is rather painful is seeing so many girls here on campus who look like Judy Doerksen: I wish she could have been here.

What are you doing at home, two time-zones earlier? Let me guess - the record player is on, either a quartet or the Emperor. Paul has finished calf-feedings and is reading in a living room chair. Judy would be piano-practicing if the record player wasn't on, but is studying instead. Rudy is sitting on the floor with a magazine wishing he had something to do. Father is sitting on the 'sofa,' sprawling rather, with a far-away plotting look. Mom's beside him with a far-away reading and dreaming look. This is Sunday evening, by the way, 10:30 piem.

I tripped off to church this morning in a very large velvet hat, red with my red suit and beige coat and red gloves (the extra finery donated). The hat is a large derby-mushroom crossbreed, a marvel. And I shall have to buy myself a hat too - idiotic things! Idiotic females! Church this morning was mass in the cathedral, because my music class is studying mass music and I wanted to see for myself - and the music is beautiful; the Sexsmith choir, Judy, is no indication. The end of the sheet and of my noisy hour - goodnight.


 

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raw forming volume 1: september 1963 - april 1964
work & days: a lifetime journal project